I have so much freedom to come and go, spend money while he stays at home cleaning house they tell me. In the beginning Becky felt this way. The only thing I can tell them is to enjoy your freedom, enjoy being a woman, and enjoy a way of life that your mother could never have imagined. In modern marriages with submissive men there are new rules. It is now the men who must ask for money or for permission to come and go.

The men want you to celebrate your freedom as mistress wives who rule them. And yes, while these submissive men want your love they also need to be ruled by you.

What Becky and I have in common is that we treasure our husbands, and we expect their active obedience. Active obedience means different things to various people. For me active obedience means a husband who is attentive, who listens, and does as told without back talking.

As strange as it may sound to many people John enjoys cleaning house. He finds the routine comforting. While away John missed bringing me coffee in the morning. He missed performing all of the routine services he does for me.

If you are alone with your guy call him to your presence. Have him remove your shoes, and ask him if he would like to kiss your feet.
As he kisses your feet tell him where to place his tongue. Tell him that just for a few minutes you want him to be your foot slave, and watch his face light up. Of course your grammar school teacher would not approve, but then what is the harm.

Is it kinky for a man to wait for his wife on his knees. It is a little more kinky for him to remove her shoes and kiss her feet. It is even more kinky for her to have him lick the souls of her shoes clean with his tongue.

‘I get to go out with friends while my husband stays home with the children’ she told me. She told me that she loves her husband and children, but there are times when she misses the freedom of being a single girl.

One or twice a month she goes out with the single people from her work place. On those evening she loves dancing with and flirting with men. Yes, like me she is a terrible flirt. On occasion she has even kissed a guy good night she told me. The self imposed rule is that she doesn’t go home with anyone.

She takes a taxi or Huber home. Her husband, she tells me, waits for her on his knees. She then allows him to take her shoes off, and kiss her feet as they talk about her adventures of the evening.

In our own family I love to listen when Becky talks with her husband. For a young wife she is very direct with him. ‘I want you to do such and such’ she will tell him. ‘Yes ma’am’ he generally responds. As a submissive type of personality I suspect he likes it when a woman tells him what to do in a direct and firm fashion. I know that he likes to thinks of him self as her servant or help mate. With John and I Becky has no hesitation of showing how well she controls him.

In a femdom marriage a husband more or less becomes the property of his mistress wife. His obedience is complete as humanly possible, and in many ways thinks of him self as her slave. The other aspect is that men in femdom relationships want the lady in their life to think of them as slaves. They love it when she refers to him as her slave or servant and otherwise talks to them like he is a subservient being of some type.

At a restaurant she will generally inquire as to what he would like to order. She, however, must approve of it. She will also do most of the ordering for him. If the portion is too large she will insist on a take out bag. None of this requires any of her time.

Thank you for taking the time to write about protocols. Like you, my wife thinks they are very important too. Every morning I wait kneeling naked in the worship position for her with her underwear in my outstretched hands, waiting to dress her and for her to inspect my chastity cage. I am just so proud to serve her! Her punishment protocols are very similar to yours, though she will always wear casual clothes so that the situation is not sexualized. After each stroke I have to say ‘One (etc), Thank you Mistress. Please may I have the next one.’ This helps me keep focused and takes my mind as much as possible off the stinging. The best bit is after she has finished (obviously!) when I kneel in front of her and hug her waist. She talks soothingly but authoritatively to me and will wipe away any tears as I gaze lovingly up at her. It sounds counter-intuitive but it is moments like these that make us the closest and most loving couple in the world. I don’t get punished very often now because she has trained me so well, but sometimes I miss not being punished on a regular basis.