i am hardly ever unlocked for sex anymore, & it’s been a very long time since i have been, too. My wife enjoys back rubs & body massages while she sits at the computer, which i like doing as well. What has become routine for this is that i am locked in my leather deprivation hood, blindfold, posture collar & gag. It forces me to concentrate fully on what i am doing without any distractions.

This sometime leads to some play time, but more so for her than me. i am always hoping to be unlocked, but i don’t expect it nor do i ever ask to be. i will massage her breasts while she uses one of her vibrators, or i wear the locking dildo gag that gets put into service. i perform whatever she is in the mood for & can only picture it in my head & rely on my imagination since i cannot see or speak. She will guide my hands or tell me what she wants.

When & if i am unlocked it’s for teasing & edging only & orgasms are extremely rare. i get totally surprised when i do have permission to cum so when she gets me closer & closer to making me & says, “I WANT YOU TO CUM!” i get extremely excited. The fantasy i had of remaining locked for her while she is pleasured has become a reality that i am sometimes so frustrated from i want to cut the chastity off & bring myself to orgasm

Since she is not at present into strap on sex ( me having the strap on over my device) she likes sometimes to have some level of real penetrative sex, before I go down on her, or in-between – lol, – but of course Im not allowed to cum during this. Period! With this practice she can hold me in denial for months I think…

I’m usually locked for a month or so at a time, and not unlocked at all for sex (twice a week typically) during that time. She’s not bothered about PIV, but likes receiving oral, so as you say, no need to let me out. She loves to tease by repeatedly bringing one hand down my back and one my front to meet around the cage ring, absolutely drives me crazy! During the month a good milking will reduce the frustration. I’ve grown to love her flushing and grimacing as she comes: it has replaced my own orgasm for feeling satisfied and relaxed after sex.

I know your situation because in the past my wife has told me that I would not be released for a long time but then let me have an orgasm after two weeks. She was feeding my fantasy of long term lockup by her words but then letting me have an orgasm much sooner. However, over time both she and I have learned that I can go longer so this time I think it is for real. Especially because I made it a point to be extra specially ‘bitchy’ after my last orgasm and when she complained, I told her that it was her fault because I warned her or the consequences and did not ask for an orgasm. I think she is finally ready to go long term. She keeps saying that she prefers me without an orgasm and if she had her way, she would never let me have one. The residual guilt or belief that I will explode or something, seems to have faded.

I don’t see any need for unlocking unless I’m in need of penetrative sex. My orgasms aren’t reliant on Penetration but to be honest I like it once in a while. There’s nothing else that feels quite the same.
For a lot of men, penetrative sex leading to their own orgasm is the be all and end all of sex.

You chaps here all have a very different view of that I’m sure. You also know that sex without penetration and orgasm can be so much more erotic, tender, beautiful, imaginative and sustained.
No one falls asleep on top of anyone or gets to skulk in the male emotional cave after orgasm.

Men remaining in chastity during sex are always in prime condition and always ready to go, as is a dog when you put your coat on and fetch his leash.

My wife could not be the ONLY one craving penetrative sex once in a while – even though she has taken total control over our sexlife, -and more… ( everything else as well , actually – LOL) She could just close that chapter if she wanted to, -but once in a while she wants her cock inside her. And even on rare occasions passionate tender sex…
And the concept of penetrative sex even if I most of the times are not allowed to cum during penetrative sex, – is a much more appealing solution to her urges

I’m only fully released for PIV but not allowed to cum in her, she only really masturbates me when no penetration is required. She use to love feeling me inside her when having an orgasm, but now my tongue and fingers seems to be favoured.

Hence why I’m locked in a cage which never has to be fully removed

My Wife/Mistress/Keyholder has evolved to desire PIV intercourse less and less as time has passed (only twice in over 2 years). She is much happier with massages, pampering, grinding and her vibrator. My story mirrors Barbara D’s in many ways as far as service to our Lady. I am rarely unlocked anymore excluding doctor appointments and a certain physical athletic endeavor I am involved in year round. Otherwise, I remain locked.

We have PIV sex once or twice a week, if she demands. During the entire foreplay I’m not released. When the actual time comes to penetrate, she ties both my hands to bed in such a way that I can’t touch my cock. Then she unlocks me. I penetrate. We both have orgasm. Then she immediately locks my cock and only then releases my hands. I’m not allowed to touch / handle my cock. She says, “just don’t touch my personal belongings”.

Whilst I accept that chastity isnt ALL about being locked up, I do believe it is about not achieving climax very often, for example, my sub hasnt cum since last December

I am “denied” because I don’t have the freedom to decide when to have sex / orgasm. When we enter our bedroom & she takes out chains & locks, I understand that we may have sex. Many times it has happened that she chained my hands / legs / neck, and then she either watches TV or even goes to sleep. And I complain, I stay chained the whole night. The frequency of our sex is ‘her desire’, not mine.
Secondly, she never never never unlocks me when she does not want sex. I think this very much is “being denied”

Then we also have the DENIAL: The NO GO! to sexual release for the sub. It is based upon the control and ownership of subs genitals, and as a result of those two elements we see a significant change in the subs mindset, -towards becoming a totally devoted, serving, pleasing sub, where everything is about her…
This is where my wife – (and I guess many other females) sees the true pros of MALE CHASTITY… ( And because many females easily gets addicted to unconditional oral service- Lol…

She owns me & my cock
I’ branded – I have her name tattooed on my forearm
She uses both of us whenever & however she wants; and if she wants
Her only statement is “We’ll stay together only till I hold the key to your cage & you follow my commands”

I’ve spoken on other threads about my one year of complete chastity. The year was up today (3 March) and my KH gave me 30 seconds to have a ruined orgasm. I figured it would be easy.

It wasn’t.

She told me I’d have to wait another year to try again.

i am needing to use it because i cannot perform as well as i used to & do not want to disappoint. We tried a hollow one that fit to the base ring but the mounting system was terrible & she didn’t like the size & feel. Another hollow one was a size she liked, was very snug on me but was difficult to set up & not done quickly. Solid ones felt best in her opinion, but i need a better harness to allow for my chastity.

What seems to be the best combination for us so far is for me to remain in my device, wear a tight panty over it, then the harness with the new dildo we just got. She can get very loud vocally during an orgasm at times & she did just that with the new one. That’s a great feeling for me because i have not been able to make her do that in a long time.

We have been thinking of numbing cream and several condoms maybe an option, my wife is keen Not to let me feel the warm silky smooth skin for a very long time.

i agree, i love being penetrated by my partner, either his cock or his fingers, I let him out, use my toy and then lock him back up again. The critical things are that he isnt allowed to touch his own cock and that he doesnt cum the permanency of locking him up isnt always the be all and end all

I get no PIV sex at all. It has been about 8 years, 10 if you do not count her girlfriend. No dildo or finger either. Mostly she uses BOB (Battery Operated Buddy) and sometimes lets me manually get her off. She will let me perform oral as a special treat even though she likes it and always has an orgasm.

My particular game is to be in total control of my subs cock and sex life, he is not allowed any solo play. I love his cock inside me so Id be stupid to stop that! Plus I love edging him, so I have to have him out of his cage in order to do that.

Penetration? Of course! Along with nipple stimulation, the penetration of a plug while wearing my harness or manual use of dildo or my p-spot vibe are the only physical pleasures I get! Seriously, I am so ready for this for my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder and I. I have the harness already (a “Doc Johnson For Him”) and a dildo to snap into it that is just about the size I was. I have a black satiny Spanx body shaper that I put on which covers my locked up goods. I then can feed the dildo out of the crotch opening of the shaper and you only see one “penis”. For whatever reason I have not been able to convince my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder to allow me to have my way with her with it. She says she is working up to it…she has stroked it, kissed it, allowed me to rub it in her labia, but never penetrate her. I have been dying to give it a go, even BEGGING, but no luck yet. I guess I am crazy because I KNOW once this happens and she likes it that I will have in essence “trained my replacement” and be spending my future having “sex” in a leather harness which will be holding a big butt plug in my ass and have an unyielding “cock” snapped in place for her pleasure. Heaven help me when she is ready…I feel mentally prepared to let go, but yet proceed knowing all to well to remember that this is what I wished for.

Numbing gel and a condom have worked well for us. CH gets to enjoy the feeling of being filled with a real live hard cock, and I get to feel… nothing.