I had never expected it, but my KH made me eat her, then penetrate her ….. as I was about to cum, she said to stop…..it was too late ! I had a ruined orgasm inside of her, I was then ordered (for the first time in my ife) to “clean it all up orally” ! humbling very very humbling !
the other morning in the tub, she was “washing” her toy, I was edging over and over !, I came real real close to orgasm and she said (for the 2nd time) “if yu mess you clean up”, this while she was edging me !
well it came to a stage where I begged her to stop !, she just added the extra jam acting as if she didn’t hear me……….well guess what RUINED ORGASM again, but in my hand !, she made me swallow it while it was still hot !!!
the following day I asked why ?, her reply “it turns me on, and you can call it sweet revenge if you like” !
either way, trust me when I tell you………it humbles you, and shows your KH absolute dedication !
In fact, my FLM is the very reason that I am not subject to this phenomenon for one very simple, convenient reason …. I don’t control my penis. The second Mistress K. accepted my submission, I gladly offered and she happily accepted the responsibility and control of my penis. As a covenant to our relationship (and as of a year ago our renewed marriage vows), my penis is completely and utterly controlled by Mistress K. Access to it, it’s use for ANYTHING other than it’s cleaning or for urination, is absolutely prohibited without permission and supervision.
Controlling the male penis is essential in any FLR. It’s the essence of discipline. If a woman can’t control what a man does or doesn’t do with his penis she really isn’t in charge no matter how often she spanks him. Discovering Jay’s out of control masturbation was a turning point for us. That evolved into complete orgasm control. He cums when and if I give him explicit permission and masturbation is strictly forbidden ( and severely punished ) Getting control of Jay’s bottom with spanking allowed me to get control of his cock as well. I still do plenty of spanking but my control of his cock is the key to the success of our FLR.
Control of access, use and pleasure of the cock is absolutely essential in a FLR/FLM. There have been some posts and comments on other blogs debating as to whether not a submale should have his orgasms controlled. I can’t imagine how a successful FLR/FLM could exist if I were to be allowed to masturbate and orgasm whenever I wanted. I believe it explicitly defines the control of the relationship being in the “subs” hands. Literally. Since beginning our FLM, I have had so very few orgasms, and most of those are of the ruined variety. I can tell though, our marriage has never been better, and the sex that I have had since then has been soooo much better than any sex I have had prior to giving up control of my cock and orgasms. The overwhelming majority of the sex we have is Mistress having an orgasm, and me having the honoring of either participating or just watching. Either way, it is a beautiful, almost spiritual thing to witness my Mistress having an orgasms. I once was able to have an orgasm (permission was granted) simply by viewing Mistress having one. There was zero stimulation to my penis.
I allow Jay to cum about twice monthly.Some wives might think that’s too often. Equally important,I believe it is not the number of times he cums that matter but that he has thoroughly internalized the message that he is forbidden to cum without my explicit permission and he is never to masturbate or ask to masturbate. As long as we are clear on that I am comfortable letting him cum when he is behaving and the moment is right.
I agree, it isn’t important how many times a sub male ejaculates. What is important is the knowledge that we are forbidden to cum. For me … I am forbidden from orgasm and touching myself sexually (anywhere, not just my penis). That being said, i do masturbate a lot because Mistress K. enjoys watching me edge myself for her. There are times where I am required to self edge during the day every 30 or 60 minutes. yes, all day! My balls just ache on those days but you know what, I have learned to yearn for that ache. She also enjoys watching me masturbate, but almost never will she allow me to orgasm that way. And god help me if I should have an accident.
This Sunday it will have been 42 days for me and the first opportunity for my Wife Mz. C to unlock me. God am I ready! Mz. C does not have me orally please her during my long lock ups, but I wish she would. I really yearn for it. If she were to have me orally please her it would not only remind me that she is my superior and owns me, but it would double my desire.
The longest she has kept me locked is 59 days and ironically that’s how old I am. I can’t help but wonder if next year she will set me a new record of 60 days?
I love her so much more now that she has complete control of my little penis and exploits it. If she had not taken control of it away from me it probably would have gotten me into trouble by now. I don’t think she’ll ever allow it to be free.
I will tell you that I was involved in the most beautiful, sensual and loving sex I have ever had in my life. It was almost spiritual.
AND
I was milked immediately after. After Mistress and I made the most incredible love I can ever remember, she reminded me that I still needed to be milked. I was not allowed to orgasm during our sex and after I told I could’ve literally had an orgasm just from witnessing her during our lovemaking, she told me to straddle her naked body on the bed. She told me that my milking would happen only if i were able to produce an ejaculation with only the visual stimulation before me (naked her), and her gently massaging my balls. It took less than a minute. Not once was my penis touched.
Monthly objective complete. Mistresses devoted pet-husband was ritualistically drained of his semen.
Sex was what Mistress wanted, and so that is what she got. I wanted it too of course, but that is never enough of a reason for Mistress to allow sex.
Then it occurred to me that Mistress was milking me. She would occasionally rub the head of my cock with her slippery hand to speed up the process, but concentrated on the massaging of my balls.
Mistress was looking me directly in the eyes, without any expression on her face. She was methodical and determined to coax the semen from deep within my balls. At that moment, and because of the expression on her face, that Mistress intended to give me my spanking punishment immediately following my milking. I begged Mistress not to spank me after extracting the cum from my balls, knowing that receiving a spanking after ejaculation is so much worse. I begged her with everything I had to give me my spanking first and then milk me after.
Mistress would have none of it. She continued to massage my balls knowing that it would be stimulation enough to produce my ejaculate. She remained expressionless and continued in a clinical fashion rubbing my aching balls. After several minutes of begging and pleading, I resigned myself to the fact that my spanking would come AFTER my milking and not the other way around. Standing naked with my arms at the top f the doorway, Mistress silently held her palm in front of my cock. It was her silent instruction that it was time for me to produce my mess into her. As if on cue and from only the stimulation of Mistress squeezing and massaging my balls in her hand, my ejaculate oozed from the head of my cock and into her hand. She continued to squeeze my balls and coax out as much as she could. When the cum stopped oozing in her hand, she abruptly let go of my now-slippery ball sack, she paused and looked into my eyes for what seemed like a long time. For a moment there, I thought she was going to feed me my cum because seemed to be in the mood of making me do something that neither of us want to do. Instead, she walked past me and into the bathroom to wash her hands.
She returned from the bathroom quickly, grabbed my outstretched arm and led me to the bed. Pointing to it she instructed me to stand next to it and bend over the side. I begged her some more not to give me my punishment right then but I’m afraid that only caused her to be more determined. I bent over the bed, offering my bare, sweat covered ass to her for my spanking. She had me stand for an adjustment and that’s when she noticed that I had dribbled some of my cum on the freshly washed sheets. Trust me, that didn’t help my situation.
For what seemed like an eternity, Mistress spanked me the gruesome wooden spoon with the rounded back. It was awful.
A big part of your job as the leader will be redirecting his attention to serving you and focusing on your needs and not his desires. It is primarily a paradigm shift in thinking. He needs to embrace his submission and focus on serving and worshiping you.