If you are a faithful reader of my life story then you know that I live in Florida for the first three months every year with my girlfriend Heather. There, Butler lives in a garage apt and pretends to only be a handyman and gardener. This allows me the opportunity to live again as a single woman. Covid spoiled this time in 2020 and 2021 but I have higher hopes this year.

Demoting Butler socially is as hard as we can play. Although, if you’ve been paying attention. you will note that we are not playing at anything. This is a deliberate and real choice in our life and our relationship.

Some men have suggested that an open cuckolding would be more humiliating for Butler. For example, I could tell my date who he is and tie him in a chair to watch. Yawn! That holds no interest for me. And, in a real way it lets my date know that the man tied in the chair is important to me. Also, it seems in this scenario that the domme is putting on a show for her sub. I am not Butler’s porn star. He is my servant.

Also, I love to watch how men treat Butler at lunch when they think he is only a waiter. I like to watch how they treat him when they drive up to my home in Florida and Butler is working in the yard or cleaning up around the pool. They barely notice him. He not remotely any competition. Little do they know, he is my love interest.

Women also look right through him. Their disregard stabs him right in the heart of his macho desire to be respected. He may be older than me but he was reasonably successful in his career and women always deferred to him in some way. Even if I introduced Butler as my submissive male they would see him somehow in a more elevated position than they do the waiter or handyman. As my sub male, he would be in my inner circle. Now, instead of my kinky partner, he has been socially demoted. He barely exists.

This may all sound like we are moving farther apart but the whole thing has been tremendously exciting for both of us. Additionally, practicing our roles as employer and servant to perfection opens doors for travel and many new experiences. I would never speak badly to the help but I can act a bit spoiled and exacting without raising eyebrows. Certainly, I admit to being in actuality a bit spoiled and exacting. We become our parts.

For example, when I move to the Queendom, will I tell anyone who he is to me or will I allow him to suffer and be trained as an unknown slave? The whole idea of making him just one of the Queendom’s stable and having him earn my attention once more makes me feel all slippery. Here in Florida, he is learning his place as a servant in a new way. Later, he’ll be more ready to accept his status as a mere part of our stable in the Queendom. Our experiences in Florida have empowered me. I can do whatever will make us both feel the full rush of a FLR relationship in a new way.