I have come to really appreciate how having a man in chastity can recondition his brain toward greater attentiveness toward his wife and greater obedience to her authority. A chastity device provides a man with almost immediate biofeedback on the current state of his arousal.

This is how William explains that to me. He says that he can be somewhere where he is aroused by something, (I have William in the very smallest penis cage), and he can feel the slightest amount of arousal. He might be somewhere around beautiful women and when he feels the even the slightest bit of arousal he can feel his penis straining against it’s little cage. If he becomes significantly aroused his erect penis will push the penis cage upward pulling the back ring so that it tugs on his scrotum and testicles. He says it can become mildly uncomfortable. I used to worry about this, that it might be hurting him, but he has assured me that it is not painful and he doesn’t think that it causes him any harm.

He says that sometimes, with extreme arousal, it becomes uncomfortable enough that he needs to adjust himself and the device. He can’t do this in public so it requires him to step somewhere private or go to the men’s room.

He says that when he was first placed in chastity, whenever he became aroused, he immediately began to fantasize about the woman he was looking at. He would think about what it would feel like to run home later and masturbate fantasizing about her. Then, almost immediately, he’d feel the pressure of his penis straining in it’s little cage and he’d be reminded that, not only would he not be able to do anything with this woman, but he can’t even go home to masturbate and fantasize about her later.

William says this starts him on a thought process that goes like, “Oh, that’s right, I’m locked in chastity, I wouldn’t be able to do anything with this woman even if I had the chance. I can’t even masturbate thinking about her or even touch my own penis. I can’t masturbate or even touch it without my wife’s permission. Man I’m horny. I can’t wait till the next time she allows me to come. I wonder when that’ll be. I have to be really good all this week so maybe she’ll let me come this Sunday. I wonder where she is right now. I wonder what she’s doing. I wonder if she has the key with her. Maybe she’ll let me out tonight if I’m really good and impress her. I hope she lets me out tonight. I can’t wait until she gets home and I get to see her again. Maybe, if I really please her tonight, she’ll let me out of my device for a little while so I can touch it.”

William says that this is what goes through his head every time he has the slightest little bi of arousal or even a spontaneous erection. He calls it the “endless brain loop of chastity”. He sees an attractive woman, he starts to get aroused, he is immediately reminded that he is under my control and can’t do anything about it without my permission, he immediately begins thinking of me and planning ways that he can please me and earn his next release. He then starts hoping that the day will hurry up so that he can be home with me, his key holder.

William says that it causes him to avoid situations where he is significantly aroused. If he lingers in the presence of an attractive woman or has a momentary flirtation with one, he can feel his penis become more erect and knows that it will soon begin pulling on his scrotum and testicles and will become uncomfortable so he removes himself from the situation before it comes to that point.

I can tell when he has been in one of these situations because he will call me to connect with me and be reassured. Sometimes I’ll be sitting at work and I get a call from him for no reason. I’ll ask him where he is and often he’ll tell me he’s out to lunch in the city. If it’s a beautiful spring day I know that he’s in the city surrounded by women in their business attire, skirts and dresses and heels, and that he has become aroused and very much wishes he could be by my side. He’ll ask me when I plan on getting home and he’ll ask me to please not stay too late at the office. I absolutely love those sweet calls from him.

When we are out in public his chastity device works like one of those proximity controlled shocking dog collars. He doesn’t like to get too far from me. We might be at some social event and he will end up in a conversation with some attractive woman, maybe she flirts with him a little. When he feels himself becoming aroused, he will remove himself from the situation and find me wherever I am. He comes to my side like an adoring puppy looking for his mistress. Williams says that attractive women who flirt with him or act charming toward him eventually become an annoyance. He knows that he will soon become aroused and it will be uncomfortable for him.

I can tell when he has had a day where he has experienced a lot of arousal in his chastity device. He will rush home to get home ahead of me. When I walk in the door I can smell that he has a dinner waiting to serve me. He will meet me eagerly at the door to take my purse, suit jacket, and briefcase. He then follows me to the couch and brings me my newspaper, the TV remote and a glass of wine. Then he happily kneels at my feet, slips off my heels, and massages my feet while he inquires about my day. After a day of receiving constant biofeedback from his chastity device at every incident of arousal, he is just happy to have his key holder home again.

At these times he is so eager to know when his next time out of his chastity device will be. He begs me to tell him what he needs to do to earn his next chance to draw a slip out of the treats and favors grab basket. It’s at these times that I get my best pedicures, my best full body massages, my shoes and boots all expertly shined and polished, and the best oral pleasure from him. He becomes so much more motivated on his really horny days . I like to keep him that way, so he very rarely gets out of his cage, let alone release.