After 4+ years my wife seems to actually be trying to deny me forever. Our chastity play is basically orgasm time indeterminate and I am led around with a carrot on a stick with an orgasm just within my grasp, only to be pulled away at the last moment. My wife is having extremely intense orgasms the longer she denies me. Things are working well for us so we will just keep going denying me as long as we can.

I owe my wife for sharing her girlfriends with me for most of our 44+ years or marriage. My wife has shared me with other women since the second year of our marriage until just 7 years ago. I have promised her that sex will focus only on her and I can go as long as she wants to take me without an orgasm. I cannot say how long that will be but right now but there are no orgasms planned. She has always said that if she had her way I would never orgasm again due to how good she was at providing me with girls. She now has her way and I am fine permanent orgasm denial.

My wife and I finalized our new sex life. Chastity will be our normal sex from now on. There will be no scheduled orgasm dates for me. I essentially am denied an orgasm unless a lack of it affects my well being is affected. My wife will provide hope that an orgasm may be coming up in a few months but then cancel it or just let me perform oral on her. She understands that with no hope she has no control over me since no matter what, I am not going to get an orgasm.

We also worked out something to take care of those times when I complain about a lack of orgasm and a few other things she finds annoying. I will be punished for as long as she deems necessary. It will be either either her paddle, strap or cane.

I’m coming up on 2 years being locked 24/7 365 my wife loves me locked and if she does let me out its very quick and then it goes right back on. Not sure what defines permanent to most but 1 or 2 orgasms a year and very short times when it does comes off seems like permanent to me.

The only thing similar I can compare it too is something she brought up that was a hard limit when we started. The whole dress up and maid thing. I told her I wasn’t interested in being anyone’s servant yet alone a maid. She too was of the same mindset.

Fast forward months in, and after another hard limit of discipline came crumbling down. She had sent a meme of maid service. I was going on 3 weeks lock up and everything she sent seemed like a good idea lol. Eventually I asked her if that was something she wanted. She said yes. I told her I would give it a try.

Although I still had some issues to work out with it, I eventually did it, uniform and all. I felt silly and ridiculous. Then I started cleaning. I can’t describe the feeling, but began to get excited with every chore I had finished. Every act of service became erotic. Knowing I was doing something out of my comfort zone and knowing this was making her happy was getting me physically arroused. By the time I was finished with the house and waiting for her to get home, sitting there in this silly uniform, I was a dripping mess….from cleaning for crying out loud.

If you’re a true submissive you let your dominant wife call the tune and you dance to it. In my marriage, I am not allowed to suggest anything. I follow orders and am grateful. I am only allowed to pleasure her a couple to a few times a month.

As we started playing with longer lock-ups I found that it really gave me this powerful focus on making my wife happy. So one day I made the bed. We never made the bed. Why bother, you’re just going to sleep in it again. She came home and saw the bed and said “I like this”. Things just snowballed from there. Now I cook, clean, shop and do the laundry. She orders me to perform tasks and I do them. She texted me this morning after dropping the kids off “I’ll be home in 10 minutes. I want two eggs over easy and a turkey sausage ready when I get there”. I dropped everything and went and did it.

Patience is the crucial ingredient. She certainly will appreciate it and, as you say, you’ll be suitably rewarded. After mentioning to my wife that I’d like a female-controlled marriage, I didn’t talk about it again until she’d had a chance to ponder it. Once she agreed, the power exchange was rapid and now is complete. She is in total control and is entirely comfortable.

So instead of being my mistress’s sex toy I am her servant boy and although I will be teased with the hope of sex or play there is no physical teasing, just visual and verbal, occasionally I’ll get a spanking if she feels like it. Mistress prefers to only orgasm a couple to a few times a month and I’m now only allowed 1 every 3 weeks at the very earliest. I was quite unhappy about the way things we going for the longest time but then it’s like something switched in my head. This was also the same time as we agreed on my longer 3 + week lockups. The weird thing about this is that I’m actually content with where I’m at, yes I’m sad that mistress isn’t allowing me more sexual contact with her but it’s not what she wants. Mistress has me doing more chores and work than ever before on top of my full time job and I’ll I ever want to do is more for her and I love her for it. I don’t understand why I’ve had this change of feelings and how I’m finding her nonsexual desires and wants from me to be almost as enjoyable as the sexual wants and desires. Is this what being broken is? I’m frustrated as ever not getting the sexual play that I would like but her wants and needs are like an overpowering aphrodisiac that I just can’t help but want to please her and make her happy. I never really thought that the non sexual side of chastity could be a turn on for me but she has me wrapped up around her little finger and she’s knows I’ll do anything at the drop of a hat for her.

This is exactly what being broken is. My wife has taken away my manhood one day at a time in a dozen subtle ways, from making me pee sitting down to having me shave my entire body to forbidding me to touch my penis to pegging me whenever she pleases. This is the essence of our female-controlled marriage, which is what I’ve always wanted. She has made me so completely submissive that there is no need to cage me, but she still keeps me locked permanently. I needed to be broken and I am, totally.

Once the male is securely placed in a chastity cage, affectionate actions wont include having an erect penis stabbing away at ones body when not really in the mood for it. Kisses and cuddles only.

I have also experienced temporary impotence after extended periods of chastity. We never played with periods as short as two weeks, but I know that at the one month mark or longer I need to be unlocked for a day or two before I can get hard enough for penetration.

We have had some fun with this, since my wife finds it amusing. She never unlocks me anymore, but she used to occasionally unlock me during sex knowing I wouldn’t be able to get hard and tell me to have what I want. As hard as I tried, I could never get into her and she found it very amusing and then would have me lock back up and say better luck next time.

Can’t help you there. My wife hates penetration and it’s the primary reason that chastity became a major part of our relationship.

Now that I’m no longer allowed to touch my penis, it has become impossible to have an erection, even on those rare times when my wife unlocks me. No more PIV for me. My wife uses a 10″ vibrator that satisfies her completely.

We have recently updated our contact and resumed 24/7 lock up.

I am a bit curious how often you get out of the belt.

Currently I am out of the bel about once or twice a week for cleanings. The rest of the time she holds the key. I don’t even have a sealed spare key anymore.

When showering she either watches me or she chain me to the shower tubing so that I can not touch myself.

Forgot to say I am not allowed to touch myself, net even for cleaning. She does that.

My wife hates PIV and keeping me permanently chaste is a dream come true for her.

My wife hasn’t been interested in intercourse for many years. Having been in panties for all that time, chastity was actually my suggestion. It reflected my position, but I’ve never felt like one lead to the other. She hasn’t decided yet if it is permanent, but no discussion about it. My cage is feeling a little tight as I contemplate such a thought.

We introduced a chastity cage into our sex life 10 years ago. Up to that point she always thought that piv was proper sex and oral was only occasional. As i got denied more and more i gave her oral instead which she enjoyed more and more until she realized that she had much better orgasms especially as i spent more time and effort as i was bring denied. Then a couple of years ago she basically indicated that piv was no longer required or desired.

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These are some rewards for a submissive boyfriend that displays complete obedience and devotion to me. They are not available for beta males.

1. May watch TV while rubbing my feet
2. 15 minutes of computer time
3. May sit on the couch near me.
4. May be release from chastity while rubbing feet *
5. Pegging with their favorite lube*
6. Cuddles *
7. Breast worship with hands tied
8. Breast smothering and sucking
9. Kissing with open mouth
10. Sleeping next to me with chastity cage

2. The submissive boyfriend must kneel in order to ask for any major requests. (Preferably in private.) Beta must be on their knees for all quest big or small. (Again only at the house)

3. A. The Submissive Boyfriend cannot look at other women lustfully unless they feel I would be interested. (I do not seek switch or dominant women, but I do look at the women’s body in artful way.)

Beta cannot look at anyone in a sexual matter, and cannot look at any if chastity device is off.

Betas are not allowed to watch porn and do not orgasm until I give the key and verbally tell them do so. (Once a month at the most depending on how their behavior is. I will keep charts.)

9. I want there is difference between submissive and beta. . . When I say submissive this means submissive boyfriend and beta is another word for servant or slave.

10. Sex with the submissive boyfriend or toy will probably only be 20% of the time. I loved to be touched and kissed. I love more of the foreplay, cuddling, and kink, more than the sexual act. (This is meaning actually touching the private parts, penis, ass, vagina etc. This NOT count kissing, massages, foreplay of other parts, teasing or chastity etc.) (This does NOT count for the beta.)

A. For every 30 to 50 of my orgasms, he gets 1. I also must cum first. (If you orgasm before me, you will not orgasm again for at least a year or longer.)

C. I want to play and have sex more when I am happy. I expect at least 40 minutes of massage (anywhere of choice.) Per playdate. I love being massaged and touched.

E. The sub wears a chastity belt or cock cage if he cannot control himself between sexual sessions.

(The beta gets to be pegged, trampled, teased as much as Mistress sees fit. They should feel privileged just to be able to touch the Mistress in such rituals as massages, cuddles, hugs, closed mouth kisses, manicure and pedicures.)

The key holding side of chastity was fun for a few years, but like many this becomes a chore that D was loosing interest in. The decision to go permanent evolved to where the penis was no longer required in our relationship and the benefits to D of keeping it that way far outweighed her need for PIV. The key is kept in a safe that only D has the combination for and it doesn’t get opened for any other reason than if we have to swap devices for a plastic airport friendly device. The penis is only touched by D when the swap occurs to ensure that no orgasm or pleasure from any touching is experienced, effectively keeping the penis out of the relationship.
We have found that after a few months the desire levels out (at an acceptably high level) to keep me totally fixated on her needs and wishes. In the past this level would reach a point where I became quite needy and painful always expecting that at some point I would be unlocked for penile pleasure and an orgasm. Without this expectation our relationship is calmer and exactly where we want it.

I am locked indefinitely, and my experience is similar to mina’s bitch. I have been locked 24/7 with time out only for exceptional conditions for over 3 years now. My desire remains high, although I am denied orgasm or even erection by the device. The desire does reach a plateau over time, and stays at that level continuously.

I’m sort of in this boat. I’m locked 24/7 indefinitely. Yes, Mrs could unlock me at any time, but in practice, it just doesn’t happen. As she has said: the way we have sex doesn’t have anything to do with my penis anymore. We’re both ok with that.

My wife used to finding hiding/losing the key, locking/unlocking all a bit tiresome. She doesn’t want penetration any more and she loves long-drawn-out pussy worship. Virtually permanent chastity using a Ksafe suits her perfectly. It’s lovely to please her and be submissive to her desires. As for the sensuality of being locked, yes nice most of the time, but while PIV and orgasms are virtually “another life”, my penis likes to erect strongly, and sometimes the feel of the cage around it is a bit too much too handle. Keeping calm, the feeling passes in a few minutes and I’m back on track in the lifestyle.

There is only a point in making it ‘permanent’ if the Keyholder has decided she is not going to want him to have sex with her, or indeed at all, again. And she’ll surely have plenty of other handles to ensure he does as he’s told.

I am a dominant yet sensual mistress who loves control. I want a long term female led relationship with a submissive boyfriend. I am not looking for a FWB or playmate. I need more than that.
(However I do have rules or strict guidlines like every dominant should.)

1. Communication is a demand. (I want a submissive boyfriend who wants give his control to me. I want them to use their free will to make their own decision for TPE.
Before any physical things happen, there will be discussions of fantasies and what both sides want, don’t want, will do and won’t do etc.)
I need to have a honest, open connection with my submissive boyfriend. (If something is not right, I want my submissive boyfriend to speak up. I also believe in safe words… Yellow means slow down or something isn’t right. Red means stop action completely and echo means we need to talk.)

2. The submissive boyfriend must kneel in order to ask for any major requests. (Preferably in private.)

3. THE Submissive Boyfriend cannot look at other women lustfully unless they feel I would be interested. (I do not seek switch or dominant women, but I do look at the women’s body in artful way.)

4. I want to meet all of submissive boyfriend friends, especially female friends. (I will not tell them he is submissive and can be done causal. However I want to know if anyone is going to want to steal him or cause drama. I will be willing to show all of my friends as well.)

5. The submissive boyfriend must have a job. (I don’t care if he goes to school while working part time to find something he loves. I just want time for myself and time where he is financially productive. I am NOT seeking someone to just clean the house. I like a balance of time together and our own time.)

6. The submissive boyfriend must be fit or trying to be come fit/active. I want this for at least health and energy reasons. (I want someone who encourages me and wants me to be more active as well. I think more time being active, better health, and more exciting sex.)

7. I want to have similar interests to do together.
My interests are …
Writing/reading
Board, rp, and card games (I like Wii sports as well)
Movies/tv/netflix (cuddle time)
Cooking/baking
Indoor biking/going to gym
Swimming (pool only)
Shopping
Dinning out
Hanging out with family and friends
Mediation/relaxing (trying to)
Traveling
Chatting

8. The submissive boyfriend can call me the following names: goddess, mistress, Rebekah, sexy, babe, hun, dear (Do NOT call me madam or ma’am, I am not that old.)
I, the mistress, can call the submissive boyfriend the following names: Babe, his name, sexy toy or boy toy, dear, hun etc

9. The submissive boyfriend must text me throughout the day. (Do NOT text while driving or while actually working. I will hate have him get into a car accident or get fired for a text.) He must be honest, I will not put up with liars.

10. Sex with the submissive boyfriend will probably only be 20% of the time (this is meaning actually touching the private parts, penis, ass, vagina etc. This NOT count kissing, massages, foreplay of other parts, teasing or chastity etc.)
A. For every 3 to 5 of my orgasms, he gets 1.
B. I want him to read my blog and explore my body to find my turn on spots and things that turn me on.
C. I want to play and have sex more when I am happy.
D. I love gifts (romantic, practical, and sexy).
E. The sub wears a chastity belt or cock cage if he cannot control himself between sexual sessions.
F. I like romance.
G. Do not get fired for sending sexual texts at work, it will result in time time chastity with a chastity belt in which I have the key.
H. I like a mixture between romance and kinky and fun on my dates.
Just. I do like surprises.

“If you are permanently locked how will your keyholder control you?”

In a typical keyheld relationship the control is exerted through the key. So if this were the case then it would kill the relationship dynamic. E.g. If you do this I will let you out and give you a ruined orgasm. We are married and in a Master slave dynamic relationship. So she asserts control in anyway she deems fit. Sometimes through rewards, sometimes through punishments. So although it was sometimes fun for her to hold the key over me it was not integral to our interaction and never her style anyways. One of her favorite things, reveling and laughing at me in a predicament, she can definitely still enjoy as it is one hell of a predicament!

So how does permanent chastity work for the MS dynamic?

Being in chastity keeps me in a submissive, slave headspace. Normally when I would orgasm I lose the headspace, get sub drop, be depressed, and not be nice in general. Then it takes a couple of weeks for all the chemicals in the brain to build back up and then I am back in the right headspace that she wants.

So she has decided that I will not orgasm anymore.

From my perspective what is scary is that as I get deeper into the submissive headspace and the more of a slave/painslut I become, that eventually there would normally be an orgasm and a release. Now when that thought is crossing through my head, I realize there is no escape or release by orgasm of these submissive feelings. Which of course just sends me deeper into the slave mindset.

I have never felt more connected and happy in our MS lifestyle than I have since we made the chastity device permanent!

Beta (slave) is someone who

I want my submissive boyfriend to spoil, pamper and worship me while he gives me power and control over his life.

I want to control
* Budget and bills and allowances
* Ambition and goals
* Chores and work
* Sex and when to cum (chastity)
* Spare time (to be earned.)

* Cross dressing (make own barbie doll)
* Human pet
* Pegging
* Male naked servants
* Being a sub into humiliation
*Submissive servants at a party
* Human furniture
* Bald submissive
* Online submissives
* D/s marriage
* Extreme pain with bondage
* Blue balls
* Trampling
* Culkolding
* Watersports
* Rimming, ass worshipping
* Findoms/tributes

So I am now permanently locked into my 3d printed titanium chastity device.

The device attaches with a titanium Prince Albert pin through the penis. I custom made a screw that when turned passed the screw being tight the shaft attached to the head breaks free leaving a flat stainless surface. Nothing to grab onto, no holes to insert anything into. To make sure I did not find a way to back the screw out I also set the screw into the device with loctite Red. It’s not going anywhere.

It feels great knowing I will be chaste for my Domina for as long as it pleases her.

We’re the same. Me being locked makes me my wife’s slave and she likes me that way. She’s not interested in my penis. She is interested in my submission. Since I am very kinky, I am more than happy with this. If she wanted me to lock “permanently”, I would. I’m not sure she would even want to make a ritual out of it.