Once the male is securely placed in a chastity cage, affectionate actions wont include having an erect penis stabbing away at ones body when not really in the mood for it. Kisses and cuddles only.

I have also experienced temporary impotence after extended periods of chastity. We never played with periods as short as two weeks, but I know that at the one month mark or longer I need to be unlocked for a day or two before I can get hard enough for penetration.

We have had some fun with this, since my wife finds it amusing. She never unlocks me anymore, but she used to occasionally unlock me during sex knowing I wouldn’t be able to get hard and tell me to have what I want. As hard as I tried, I could never get into her and she found it very amusing and then would have me lock back up and say better luck next time.

Can’t help you there. My wife hates penetration and it’s the primary reason that chastity became a major part of our relationship.

Now that I’m no longer allowed to touch my penis, it has become impossible to have an erection, even on those rare times when my wife unlocks me. No more PIV for me. My wife uses a 10″ vibrator that satisfies her completely.

We have recently updated our contact and resumed 24/7 lock up.

I am a bit curious how often you get out of the belt.

Currently I am out of the bel about once or twice a week for cleanings. The rest of the time she holds the key. I don’t even have a sealed spare key anymore.

When showering she either watches me or she chain me to the shower tubing so that I can not touch myself.

Forgot to say I am not allowed to touch myself, net even for cleaning. She does that.

My wife hates PIV and keeping me permanently chaste is a dream come true for her.

My wife hasn’t been interested in intercourse for many years. Having been in panties for all that time, chastity was actually my suggestion. It reflected my position, but I’ve never felt like one lead to the other. She hasn’t decided yet if it is permanent, but no discussion about it. My cage is feeling a little tight as I contemplate such a thought.

We introduced a chastity cage into our sex life 10 years ago. Up to that point she always thought that piv was proper sex and oral was only occasional. As i got denied more and more i gave her oral instead which she enjoyed more and more until she realized that she had much better orgasms especially as i spent more time and effort as i was bring denied. Then a couple of years ago she basically indicated that piv was no longer required or desired.

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These are some rewards for a submissive boyfriend that displays complete obedience and devotion to me. They are not available for beta males.

1. May watch TV while rubbing my feet
2. 15 minutes of computer time
3. May sit on the couch near me.
4. May be release from chastity while rubbing feet *
5. Pegging with their favorite lube*
6. Cuddles *
7. Breast worship with hands tied
8. Breast smothering and sucking
9. Kissing with open mouth
10. Sleeping next to me with chastity cage

2. The submissive boyfriend must kneel in order to ask for any major requests. (Preferably in private.) Beta must be on their knees for all quest big or small. (Again only at the house)

3. A. The Submissive Boyfriend cannot look at other women lustfully unless they feel I would be interested. (I do not seek switch or dominant women, but I do look at the women’s body in artful way.)

Beta cannot look at anyone in a sexual matter, and cannot look at any if chastity device is off.

Betas are not allowed to watch porn and do not orgasm until I give the key and verbally tell them do so. (Once a month at the most depending on how their behavior is. I will keep charts.)

9. I want there is difference between submissive and beta. . . When I say submissive this means submissive boyfriend and beta is another word for servant or slave.

10. Sex with the submissive boyfriend or toy will probably only be 20% of the time. I loved to be touched and kissed. I love more of the foreplay, cuddling, and kink, more than the sexual act. (This is meaning actually touching the private parts, penis, ass, vagina etc. This NOT count kissing, massages, foreplay of other parts, teasing or chastity etc.) (This does NOT count for the beta.)

A. For every 30 to 50 of my orgasms, he gets 1. I also must cum first. (If you orgasm before me, you will not orgasm again for at least a year or longer.)

C. I want to play and have sex more when I am happy. I expect at least 40 minutes of massage (anywhere of choice.) Per playdate. I love being massaged and touched.

E. The sub wears a chastity belt or cock cage if he cannot control himself between sexual sessions.

(The beta gets to be pegged, trampled, teased as much as Mistress sees fit. They should feel privileged just to be able to touch the Mistress in such rituals as massages, cuddles, hugs, closed mouth kisses, manicure and pedicures.)

The key holding side of chastity was fun for a few years, but like many this becomes a chore that D was loosing interest in. The decision to go permanent evolved to where the penis was no longer required in our relationship and the benefits to D of keeping it that way far outweighed her need for PIV. The key is kept in a safe that only D has the combination for and it doesn’t get opened for any other reason than if we have to swap devices for a plastic airport friendly device. The penis is only touched by D when the swap occurs to ensure that no orgasm or pleasure from any touching is experienced, effectively keeping the penis out of the relationship.
We have found that after a few months the desire levels out (at an acceptably high level) to keep me totally fixated on her needs and wishes. In the past this level would reach a point where I became quite needy and painful always expecting that at some point I would be unlocked for penile pleasure and an orgasm. Without this expectation our relationship is calmer and exactly where we want it.

I am locked indefinitely, and my experience is similar to mina’s bitch. I have been locked 24/7 with time out only for exceptional conditions for over 3 years now. My desire remains high, although I am denied orgasm or even erection by the device. The desire does reach a plateau over time, and stays at that level continuously.

I’m sort of in this boat. I’m locked 24/7 indefinitely. Yes, Mrs could unlock me at any time, but in practice, it just doesn’t happen. As she has said: the way we have sex doesn’t have anything to do with my penis anymore. We’re both ok with that.

My wife used to finding hiding/losing the key, locking/unlocking all a bit tiresome. She doesn’t want penetration any more and she loves long-drawn-out pussy worship. Virtually permanent chastity using a Ksafe suits her perfectly. It’s lovely to please her and be submissive to her desires. As for the sensuality of being locked, yes nice most of the time, but while PIV and orgasms are virtually “another life”, my penis likes to erect strongly, and sometimes the feel of the cage around it is a bit too much too handle. Keeping calm, the feeling passes in a few minutes and I’m back on track in the lifestyle.

There is only a point in making it ‘permanent’ if the Keyholder has decided she is not going to want him to have sex with her, or indeed at all, again. And she’ll surely have plenty of other handles to ensure he does as he’s told.

I am a dominant yet sensual mistress who loves control. I want a long term female led relationship with a submissive boyfriend. I am not looking for a FWB or playmate. I need more than that.
(However I do have rules or strict guidlines like every dominant should.)

1. Communication is a demand. (I want a submissive boyfriend who wants give his control to me. I want them to use their free will to make their own decision for TPE.
Before any physical things happen, there will be discussions of fantasies and what both sides want, don’t want, will do and won’t do etc.)
I need to have a honest, open connection with my submissive boyfriend. (If something is not right, I want my submissive boyfriend to speak up. I also believe in safe words… Yellow means slow down or something isn’t right. Red means stop action completely and echo means we need to talk.)

2. The submissive boyfriend must kneel in order to ask for any major requests. (Preferably in private.)

3. THE Submissive Boyfriend cannot look at other women lustfully unless they feel I would be interested. (I do not seek switch or dominant women, but I do look at the women’s body in artful way.)

4. I want to meet all of submissive boyfriend friends, especially female friends. (I will not tell them he is submissive and can be done causal. However I want to know if anyone is going to want to steal him or cause drama. I will be willing to show all of my friends as well.)

5. The submissive boyfriend must have a job. (I don’t care if he goes to school while working part time to find something he loves. I just want time for myself and time where he is financially productive. I am NOT seeking someone to just clean the house. I like a balance of time together and our own time.)

6. The submissive boyfriend must be fit or trying to be come fit/active. I want this for at least health and energy reasons. (I want someone who encourages me and wants me to be more active as well. I think more time being active, better health, and more exciting sex.)

7. I want to have similar interests to do together.
My interests are …
Writing/reading
Board, rp, and card games (I like Wii sports as well)
Movies/tv/netflix (cuddle time)
Cooking/baking
Indoor biking/going to gym
Swimming (pool only)
Shopping
Dinning out
Hanging out with family and friends
Mediation/relaxing (trying to)
Traveling
Chatting

8. The submissive boyfriend can call me the following names: goddess, mistress, Rebekah, sexy, babe, hun, dear (Do NOT call me madam or ma’am, I am not that old.)
I, the mistress, can call the submissive boyfriend the following names: Babe, his name, sexy toy or boy toy, dear, hun etc

9. The submissive boyfriend must text me throughout the day. (Do NOT text while driving or while actually working. I will hate have him get into a car accident or get fired for a text.) He must be honest, I will not put up with liars.

10. Sex with the submissive boyfriend will probably only be 20% of the time (this is meaning actually touching the private parts, penis, ass, vagina etc. This NOT count kissing, massages, foreplay of other parts, teasing or chastity etc.)
A. For every 3 to 5 of my orgasms, he gets 1.
B. I want him to read my blog and explore my body to find my turn on spots and things that turn me on.
C. I want to play and have sex more when I am happy.
D. I love gifts (romantic, practical, and sexy).
E. The sub wears a chastity belt or cock cage if he cannot control himself between sexual sessions.
F. I like romance.
G. Do not get fired for sending sexual texts at work, it will result in time time chastity with a chastity belt in which I have the key.
H. I like a mixture between romance and kinky and fun on my dates.
Just. I do like surprises.

“If you are permanently locked how will your keyholder control you?”

In a typical keyheld relationship the control is exerted through the key. So if this were the case then it would kill the relationship dynamic. E.g. If you do this I will let you out and give you a ruined orgasm. We are married and in a Master slave dynamic relationship. So she asserts control in anyway she deems fit. Sometimes through rewards, sometimes through punishments. So although it was sometimes fun for her to hold the key over me it was not integral to our interaction and never her style anyways. One of her favorite things, reveling and laughing at me in a predicament, she can definitely still enjoy as it is one hell of a predicament!

So how does permanent chastity work for the MS dynamic?

Being in chastity keeps me in a submissive, slave headspace. Normally when I would orgasm I lose the headspace, get sub drop, be depressed, and not be nice in general. Then it takes a couple of weeks for all the chemicals in the brain to build back up and then I am back in the right headspace that she wants.

So she has decided that I will not orgasm anymore.

From my perspective what is scary is that as I get deeper into the submissive headspace and the more of a slave/painslut I become, that eventually there would normally be an orgasm and a release. Now when that thought is crossing through my head, I realize there is no escape or release by orgasm of these submissive feelings. Which of course just sends me deeper into the slave mindset.

I have never felt more connected and happy in our MS lifestyle than I have since we made the chastity device permanent!

Beta (slave) is someone who

I want my submissive boyfriend to spoil, pamper and worship me while he gives me power and control over his life.

I want to control
* Budget and bills and allowances
* Ambition and goals
* Chores and work
* Sex and when to cum (chastity)
* Spare time (to be earned.)

* Cross dressing (make own barbie doll)
* Human pet
* Pegging
* Male naked servants
* Being a sub into humiliation
*Submissive servants at a party
* Human furniture
* Bald submissive
* Online submissives
* D/s marriage
* Extreme pain with bondage
* Blue balls
* Trampling
* Culkolding
* Watersports
* Rimming, ass worshipping
* Findoms/tributes

So I am now permanently locked into my 3d printed titanium chastity device.

The device attaches with a titanium Prince Albert pin through the penis. I custom made a screw that when turned passed the screw being tight the shaft attached to the head breaks free leaving a flat stainless surface. Nothing to grab onto, no holes to insert anything into. To make sure I did not find a way to back the screw out I also set the screw into the device with loctite Red. It’s not going anywhere.

It feels great knowing I will be chaste for my Domina for as long as it pleases her.

We’re the same. Me being locked makes me my wife’s slave and she likes me that way. She’s not interested in my penis. She is interested in my submission. Since I am very kinky, I am more than happy with this. If she wanted me to lock “permanently”, I would. I’m not sure she would even want to make a ritual out of it.

I’m a very dominant Woman and a strong Advocate of permanent male chastity!

I like men who know that they have to live in strict chastity. Only this way their whole attention is at the Woman’s world.

The man exclusive exists to serve the Woman!

My slaves stays locked up permanently. Only this way they are able to spend all of their attention on Me to give Me the satisfaction I need.

For Me it’s the only and ideal solution of a relationship with a man!

My personal slaves have of course also very specific rules to which they are subject to exception. These rules are enforced with a strict consequence of Me!

1. absolute orgasm-/release prohibition
2. strict restriction to speak
3. eye restriction, always look to the ground
4. in the presence of the Mistress and any other person always on the knees
5. absolute forbidden to use any kind of furnitures
6. total prohibition of public and body hair from head down
7. strict prohibition to even touch the chastity belt

To My surprise I found that I liked him. he was well behaved, obedient and attentive to Me when he was serving Me, and I enjoyed the time we spend together. I decided to push the relationship to the next and collar him.

I ordered him to buy a stainless-steel chastity tube from Ms Lori, and to get a piercing as soon as possible which allowed Me to lock the tube in place in a very secure manner. After he was ready, I locked the tube on his penis for which only I had the key. We started out slow but soon I prolonged his periods of chastity up to seven months.

It drove him crazy, and often he begged Me for release, but deep down, we both knew that he wanted Me to take complete control of his sex life forever. Finally, the day came for Me to own him fully. I tied him to the bed, as usual, and removed his chastity tube. His penis, which had been cruelly confined for seven months, stood to attention and ached for release.

“Do I own this penis?” I asked him. “Of course you do, My Mistress.” he replied. “So I completely control your erections and orgasms?” I asked. “Forever” he replied.

“Very well,” I said, “then I have decided that you will be allowed ten more orgasms in your life.” “Ten?” he exclaimed, “Only ten?” “Yes,” I said, “and I can tell you exactly when they will be.” When he asked Me how I could know that, I explained to him the program of gradually increasing periods of chastity I had devised. I even showed him the little chart I had made:

1. orgasm: 6 month after your locking up date
2. orgasm: 1 year after the 1. orgasm
3. orgasm: 1,5 years after the 2.
4. orgasm: 2 years after the 3.
5. orgasm: 2,5 years after the 4.
6. orgasm: 3 years after the 5.
7. orgasm: 4 years after the 6.
8. orgasm: 5 years after the 7.
9. orgasm: 8 years after the 8. und the
10. orgasm: 12 years after the 9. orgasm

I also explained him how his slavery will be controlled, “But there is a little twist, you see, when you make a mistake or disobey or annoy Me in any sort of way I will cancel your next orgasm. So in case you annoy Me now then I will cancel your orgasm in 6 month and you will wait another 1,5 years for your next orgasm, and that means you will have only 9 orgasms left in your life. Another mistake before your next orgasm will mean you will again wait, with only 8 orgasms left in your life. For each mistake I will cancel one orgasm. With 10 mistakes you will not have any orgasms left”.

The look of fear in his eyes made Me wet. “Look on the bright side, My slave,” I continued, “you can get your next orgasm in 6 months if you don’t make any mistake till then. But on the other hand, your tenth and last orgasm will be in 39,5 years, assuming you can still manage it by then.”

Before today, my last release for sex with my wife was on Fathers Day. Coincidentally today marks 100 days. On that day like usual I made sure she had enough orgasms to satisfy herself, and she made sure I had none. In the meantime I got my first ever prescription for Viagra (generic). Today, she unlocked me before dinner and told me to take my Viagra because she was feeling guilty for keeping me locked so long. By the time we got home I was pitching a tent in the front of my pants like a 16 year old. She told me to choose between our normal numbing cream and condoms or I could go bareback and have an awesome orgasm. I know this is a trick question and she would punish me for picking the latter. I told her to choose. She picked up the numbing cream and spread it all over my cock. I placed two condoms on then ate her pussy for 10 minutes while the numbing cream took effect. Once ready I pounded her like a jackhammer for another 20 minutes, unable to feel a thing. No orgasm for me…..again! After she had three orgasms with the assistance of her boyfriend Mr. Hitachi Magic Wand she was finished. I lay naked, hot, sweaty, and exhausted on the bed. A few moments later I was struck in the ass with a riding crop. She continued to strike blow after blow across my ass, alternating left cheek to right as she ridiculed me for having to use her boyfriend to get off. She then told me to thank her and say “Mistress please lock me up back in my cage”. I couldn’t do it at first so she struck me on my ass with the crop about 15 times in quick succession. I quickly submitted and I yelled ” please, please Mistress lock me back up in my cage” . She giggled like a little schoolgirl as she slid the solid tube over my still hard dick and forced it in before locking it shut.

Congrats on the 100 days, although your release sounds incredibly brief and playtime for you rather limited. Does spending most of your year in nearly permanent chastity come easy to you ? Or is it something you’ve had to work real hard at to get through.? I get unlocked to play, if I’m good, for a few minutes, maybe once a week. I get no more than one orgasm per month. However, that’s not the same as staying locked and orgasm free for 100 days at a time. Has she promised you any time out of the cb again soon, or is it off to another 100 days for you.? I would love to try 100 days straight some time, just to know what it’s like.

I was extra attentive to my wife and placed kisses all over her body until she started to stir. I then massaged her for about a half hour. She told me to put on a pair of pink thong panties that she had made me buy at the store about a week ago. She then told go make her breakfast.

I stood in front of the stove in nothing but the pink panties. As i was cooking i heard the familiar faint sound of an IPhone camera shutter around the corner. I suspected that my Wife was taking pictures of me. I looked out of the corner of my eye and saw her phone in her hand disappear behind the wall. I acted like i didnt see anything. A few minutes later i called down the hall and told her breakfast was ready. When I asked her what she had been doing she said that she had been trying on clothes.

I asked my wife when she would allow me to have an orgasm. She told me to make a suggestion box and i could fill it with ideas. She said that she would check the box twice a year and she would make a decision then.

Long term chastity was difficult at first but it gets easier day by day. My wife switched me from a cage that had openings between the bars that i could snake my fingers between and get a little pleasure, to a solid tube with tiny pee hole at the end.

After 2 years I have come to realize that this is now my life. She has told me several times that she will never go back as she loves the way i treat her and behave now.

1. Anti masturbation tool.

2. Stops males cheating (This should not be needed, but as 45% of males cheat it obviously is useful.

3. Limiting sexual advances from a partner with a higher sex drive.

4. Birth control (as mentioned by Mistress B recently).

5. Makes the male more useful with household chores.

6. Makes the male more attentive and more likely to surprise his partner with gifts.

7. Taming aggressive behavioural tendencies / traits.

The home decorating is slowly getting done, I’ve done the first item on the list, and second is started and she was so pleased she ‘invited’ me upstairs last night for an ‘early bedtime’.
I wasn’t sure if she wanted to unlock me but she just had a giggle about me being locked up and then went through the list of jobs and which in order they might best be done, mentioning “it may be some time before you finish all the jobs, the end of the year?”

Wow I’d love to be used and abused like that. My K/H hates sex so I just stay on permanent lock down. 100 days is nothing to me but being used like that and then locked again…. I’m jealous lol

My man has orgasmed twice recently (on two separate occasions) while he was pleasuring me and caged.
He has been locked continuously (aside from short hygiene breaks) for 3 months now.

I’m thinking it’s the way forward since there’s no fiddling to get the cage on and off and no resentment at having to be locked up again.
Furthermore I think as you mentioned above, the nature of the orgasm (not being full) allows him to return quite quickly to an aroused state.

Aside from him missing being able to have a full erection I can’t see any reason why we can’t continue in this way.
or am I missing something?

I have believed in matriarchy and female superiority since I was too young to know these words. I now for many years have been the head of a female led family; my wonderful, fully domesticated and devoutly submitted husband, our two daughters and our son. I was a single child and brought up by a single mother so I did not at home experience any of the in many ways undesirable male behavior. My husband was raised by a single mother but he had three sisters so he grew up fully adjusted to female norms and values and also with a good sense of male inferiority. You can imagine that he was easily trained and is happy and content with me in control.

Naturally there are aspects of a marriage and of adult life that should never take place in front of children but I have never tried to hide from our children what my values and convictions are. From they were small they have heard me telling their father what to do, reminding him sternly, reprimanding him. They also at times when it just came natural saw me slapping him in the face or on his clothed bottom. They heard and saw this because that is how we live and it would be wrong to play act in front of the children and then have our real life behind closed doors when the kids were in bed. They always knew that I made most decisions, that I had the final say in all matters and that their father in most matters had no say at all. As they grew up I spoke with them about gender roles, matriarchy, male immaturity, female superiority and all these things in a way they at their age at the time could comprehend. They never saw or hear about their father wearing chastity device and they never saw or were informed of him being caned or strapped but they knew when he was grounded and when he was sent to bed early as punishment.

Our daughters are now 10 and 15 years old and our son is 14. They are all happy and good children, doing well in school and helpful and polite at home. To them there is nothing strange or mysterious in me being in charge and their father having to do as I say, it is for them the most natural thing in the world and they seem all three to have fully grasped and embraced the matriarch values and outlook on life. The girls are eager to discuss female supremacy with me and they try to view everything they come across in school and the news and other places from a matriarchal viewpoint. From our discussions but also from many of the essays the girls have written at school I can see that the matriarchal viewpoint is always important to them and they use every opportunity to point out how wrong things always go in a society led by men and the primitive and childish masculine values.

Our son seems to fully understand and accept that he as a boy must have stricter and more restricting rules than his sisters. At the age of 14 he now naturally want to be a man but it is a well-behaved and obedient man like his father. Actually I think my son is scare by the thought of not having the care and protection that is provided in a female dominated and led community.

Now the oldest girl and the boy are teens it will not worry me if they one day should hear the sounds of the strap or cane and their father’s bawling from the bedroom; surely they will understand that if I punish him that way it is because he deserves it.