I have always defined my relationship with my husband as complete FLR. Meaning that I am in control of everything: financial, sexual and otherwise. I make the decisions and he abides by them. I make sure things run smoothly by managing his tasks and routines. He wears a chastity belt because it reinforces my control and provides a simple method of reward and punishment, meaning that it ensures that he is motivated and disciplined.

So I define FLR as a way of life, whereas I think of femdom and D/S as terms that are more related to sex. I am a female and dominant and he is submissive, but the sexual component of our relationship is only one component, not the principal one. Obviously my being the boss and him being locked means that sex I initiate sex, and that his needs are not met in the traditional male fashion, but I think of femdom and D/S as being focused on kinkiness and on “scenes”, which really is not what our sex life is like. Of course the fact is that I sometimes peg him and that most sexual activity consists of him being on his knees pleasuring. But I characterize our relationship as FLR, meaning that my control is comprehensive and absolute, not focused on the sexual aspect.

In our case, the Mrs. has always been very dominant in all aspects of our marriage and married life. Since she has, for a very long time lacked marital “intimacy” and since I have tried to adjust to it, submitting to any behavior that may give me that feeling of intimacy I so much desire, I’d have to conclude that our relationship is definitely Domme/sub.

Over time (i.e. 5 years), yes. Use it or lose it, as they say. And I guess that without stroking it all the time (wasting orgasms as my wife calls it), shrinkage should occur. I clearly went from 5.9″ to 5.4″ when extremely hard. I know that sounds terrible from a male perspective, but it is erotically fulfilling to a submissive. I asked my wife for her thoughts before I posted this reply, and She said (actually texted me): “The shrinkage is a tangible reaffirmation for my husband that he cannot adequately satisfy my needs. There is no reason to allow him any sex as he is unable to satisfy me with his small penis.”

Ten years ago, my subhub was about 5 1/2″ erect. These days, he’s down to four at the most. LOL

I’m exactly the same as in the previous post. I’m in a Lori #5, so there’s no teste ring it’s just held in place by the snug tube and the head of my penis, and locked on with a 0g PA pin. After 10 months (it never comes off – ever – and most likely never will) my cockhead seems bigger, all the blood goes there and the base of my shaft. It seems like my penis head has gotten bigger, always slightly engorged. I’m always semi hard, but it seems my penis has adapted to the tube and changed shape a bit, and the head has filled out the space it has in the tube, under the bars on top.

Well my subby has very definitely shrunk over the years since he’s been locked 24/7/365, which for me is a definite added bonus. Also increases his sense of inadequacy – just how I like it!!

My keyholder told me it didn’t matter if I shrank or not, because I wasn’t going to be fucking again. As usual, she knows what she’s talking about.

The key for me is to stay in the cage, and only be released for the couple of minutes to cum once or twice a year. Then I’m locked right back in as soon as I cum, go limp, and get cleaned up. If I’m never out for more than a few minutes twice a year, it never gets a chance to regain the size it used to be. Loss of size is a non-problem since I don’t fuck anymore.

The final step was 4 years of 24/7 lockup and now I fit into a 1 1/4″ Jailbird which my wife wanted me to get to prevent orgasms and squash my penis down. Now my penis often retreats into my body so at times you cannot even find it. Also my penis rarely gets erect anymore due to being denied orgasms for at least 1 month and but often more over 4 years. The best way to explain it is that I am so used to fighting having an orgasm when my wife teases and edges me that now my penis fights getting erect.

Add being sterile and we have a small penis that does not get erect and that is my wife’s reason to keep me locked up permanently. She reminds me that my penis is useless to her and we have not had intercourse in longer than either of us can remember. My wife only orgasms with her vibrator because she has no use for my penis other than to tease to illicit moans of frustration from her which seems to turn her on.

My wife moved in her girlfriend and I got to watch and assist them to give each other orgasms and once in awhile they would milk me but only when I was in some kind of pain. Sounds terrible but I have led this life for the last 20 years but only the last 4 being locked up. We tried to quit and lead a normal sex life but that lasted only 2 months and we went back to chastity and orgasm denial.

I do think all of the above has affected my penis. When I do orgasm it is with a limp penis. I rarely get hard and that is even after taking Viagra. Best I can do is a semi hard cock.