This was Sunday, and he was scheduled for ejaculation. I told him that ejaculation will be postponed maybe until Tuesday. This really got his attention. This is one thing us wives need to realize. When we control the ejaculation schedule, we wield great influence over our husbands. I explained why his special day would be delayed, and that before sex happens today, there will be a punishment delivered. He insisted that it wasn’t necessary, and he would be good in the future, but that doesn’t take care of the inappropriate behavior that had occurred. I explained that whenever he feels like he wants sex today, he needs to let me know, and we’ll take care of it. This is what’s good about this method. He will always submit to discipline, because he will always be driven eventually to a strong desire to enter me. As women we need to realize we set the terms of entry to our vaginas and not to give that up lightly. Eventually, he came to me and said he’d like to have sex. I said that’s fine, but there’s business to take care of first.
I told him to strip and get on his knees. I think it’s important for him to be naked so his penis is displayed just to assess his arousal. I notice when he’s on his knees, his penis is standing straight up. This will not be a successful punishment if that penis is still standing when I’m done. Again, it’s not punishment if it arouses him. I restrain his hands as he can’t seem to keep them away from his rear while I deliver his strapping. I use leather cuffs with metal carabiners that clip into the headboard and put pillows under his pelvis to get his rear in the air. This not only makes the target easier to strike, but it also displays the penis so I can assess the progress of his arousal, as well as his testicles that adds some extra fear as he needs to hold very still during his strapping so that the three tailed strap doesn’t catch a ball or two because of moving. It may be arousing at the start but quickly escalates with sincere tears and cries for me to “Please Stop!!!”. But of course it’s only just the beginning. It’s important for him to have genuine remorse, and a desire to change. As far as I’m concerned the strapping hasn’t started until his penis is completely soft after stripping the arousal out of the experience with 10 or 15 strokes with the leather strap, and then the punishment can begin. After examining his soft penis, I can see he’s definitely not having fun anymore, and then we’ll start counting the strokes. This is why this is rare, but I am really starting to appreciate this activity. As we count, we’ll stop periodically so his rear can rest, and he can explain to me why this is happening which is of course because he doesn’t think before he opens his mouth, and he can also explain to me what his future strategy will be to make sure it doesn’t happen again. Then we resume. My goal was 50, but he really could only make it to 41. I could see that he just wasn’t going to make it through that last nine. My fault for not pacing the intensity right, and I might have been enjoying it too much. Plus the 20 inch wooden drilled paddle is brutal. In any case, I could see he was filled with remorse, and sincerely wanted to change.
I’ve gained deeper insight into this activity since we started a year ago. Men are taught early on that boys don’t cry. Men conceal their feelings and aren’t prone to displays of vulnerability. I can see how this would bring a couple closer together as the wife has the power to bring the husband to a state of tears. As he discovers his place, it brings us closer together. It’s a very intimate experience between husband and wife. It also appears to be a very bonding experience that a man won’t experience in any other way. His heart is genuinely turned toward the wife seeking forgiveness.
When it’s over, he resumes his place on his knees, and I notice his penis is completely flaccid. Success. I have him explain why I had to do that and what his place in this relationship is, which is of course to be my loving supportive husband and to talk to me in a way that reflects that. While on his knees his steel rod begins to appear anticipating sex. We have sex, and I maintain him mostly in his pre-climax state throughout. It ends without ejaculation, if not a lot of crying, whimpering and screaming as he tries to avoid emission. It would be a shame to have to repeat that punishment all over again. I tell him maybe later ejaculation might happen, but that I’m proud of him that he took his discipline so well and that went a long way to securing ejaculation later in the day …possibly.
I don’t know for sure, but I’m thinking of following my new found joy in this activity. I’ve told my husband this might be an important weekly activity as I explore my nature as a woman, and also as a powerful reminder to him as to his place in the relationship as a supportive loving husband although the severity may certainly be less depending on his behavior through the week.
I’m poised at another fork in the road where semen retention has lead us. My husband’s natural state practicing semen retention craves a dominant merciless female authority, and I find that I genuinely enjoy breaking him more than I have in the past which is something new for me. I’m actually considering a weekly beating for my husband just for my pleasure as well as to keep our roles aligned so he doesn’t drift to that assertive aggressive male state that we just experienced. My husband’s state of mind is that he’s here to serve me. He craves to demonstrate before me his willingness to endure anything even if it’s just to serve a whim of my own amusement.
At the end of the week, he decided /wanted/craved to come back and submit to semen retention, the ejaculation schedule and consequences for unauthorized ejaculation. The pleasure he now derives from our method of intercourse is a state of hyper pleasure where everything else pales in comparison. He’s been so well trained in this method, I really wonder if he would be able to perform standard sex if I found him a normal pretty girl or even get a good erection for her. He now requires a particular set of circumstances to perform. If a normal woman tried to have intercourse with him, she would need to read my instruction manual to even get him started. His erection during our standard sex session was only adequate for penetration, hardly adequate to reach my A-Spot in the cervix area and provided little pleasure for me.
I’ve never been concerned about my husband cheating on me, but after what I experienced with him during his week off, I really don’t see him performing without the appropriate circumstances. I’m not saying it’s impossible for him to have sex in a normal fashion with a pretty girl that just wants to get laid, but it would be highly unlikely and difficult for him. Once you have your husband trained and broken in with this method, I think standard sex will be very disappointing for him no matter how much he says he wants to just ejaculate whenever he pleases.
I think he’s effectively been castrated except for when I need his penis for my purposes. He’s no longer compelled to masturbate, and his ejaculation is conditioned to the sound of my voice issuing the release command. His erections are unbelievable when submitting to a female authority. Many men can have difficulty sustaining an erection during standard intercourse, but once my husband is at full mast, his penis stays locked in that 100% erect state for the duration of our lengthy session and for some time even after our session is over.
He’s trading his one orgasm to have me orgasm 18 times on his face. If your husband chooses this road, your orgasm will be his orgasm. He will be in service which is the higher calling than his self indulgent ejaculation. It’s my husband’s excruciating pleasure, screaming, whining, crying, begging that drives me to an intense whole body orgasm as I’m flooded with his energy that passes to me that I then share with him as I ride his face in ecstasy 8 -18 more times and finally drown out his cries as he receives me at the end of our session. In the end, he’s traded 1-2 minutes of substandard thrusting with 10 seconds of pleasure for 20-30 minutes of excruciating pleasure almost daily.
Despite his experience with his week off, I’m still holding off on having him hand over complete control over his ejaculation to me in an official ceremony of lifetime commitment. I still consider this a trial period. It’s a very huge decision for him, and once it’s done, it’s done. He will be effectively castrated except when I require it for my service, and it will be drained per the schedule I set for it accepting it without question, and unauthorized spills will be punished severely as they are now, but there will be no turning back. This commitment won’t be taken lightly. He’s made that pledge for our trial period, but I think it gives him peace of mind that there might be a way out. I can see obviously that there is no way but this way. His penis doesn’t function without the three pillars of semen retention, ejaculation schedule, and consequences for unauthorized ejaculation, but he needs to come to that conclusion as well. After the ceremony this way of life will be a condition to be in a relationship with me.
Before initiating the two week period, I had a male that, even though he practiced semen retention with daily stimulation, still requested free computer time to view nude novel human females. When I gave permission, fifteen minutes of viewing time was allowed. During that time he was allowed to view various nude novel human females which he found pleasure in viewing.
I continue to practice intercourse this way, and our sessions remain at about 30 minutes in length. This is why it’s essential to have consequences for unauthorized ejaculation. As he is being stimulated for 20-30 minutes in his pre-emission state, he desperately wants to ejaculate, and all I have to do is remind him of the severe averse stimulus that waits on the other side of that unauthorized ejaculation to help him retain. He’s not getting that release, but the pleasure he experiences is the most intense he’s ever experienced. So, despite his begging to release, it’s important for the female to remain firm and know she is doing the best thing for him and the relationship. This is why I believe it’s important for the woman to secure a commitment from her husband that he will abide by her ejaculation schedule, giving her absolute control over his release. If I would have known this before we got married, I would have included it in his vows in a private ceremony after the public ceremony. I think this would be ideal to have a ceremony like this on the wedding night or after a trial period after the marriage.
Sex is very intense for me as well as him when intercourse is practiced in this manner. It does produce a male that absolutely worships and submits to the female.
I very seldom even touch my husbands penis except to hold it to lube it for vaginal entry and it is very brief. My husband is solely stimulated by my vagina. I believe strongly in the union between the lingam and yoni and all the benefits it yields. I’m on top mostly. He stimulates himself as well as me of course by thrusting very near or close to semen emission. He backs off if he gets to close, and resumes staying close to that state without emission. He also gets short breaks (9-18 of them) as I orgasm, jump on his face for additional clitoral stimulation, and get back on his penis and ride to the next one. I hope that’s clear. He is almost always close to emission (pre-climax stimulation). I don’t let him drop out of pre-climax for long. Just long enough for him to maintain control. I’m always spurring him to thrust if he can. He’s desperate for release and almost delirious by the time I’m finished (about 20-30 minutes).
My experience is that my husband is wholly inadequate to reach this area unless he’s completely 100% engorged to his full 6″ circumference 6 1/2″ length. If he decreases in size even a little, I notice it as it slips out of that zone, and I firmly issue the “bigger” command. If he does not comply, he knows that he is in for some severe punishment. Reminding him of this consequence usually helps harden his erection.