we did try penetration one other time besides the two orgasms I have had in the last 4 years using desensitizing cream with a condom and a cock & ball noose (an adjustable cock ring of sorts) to help keep me erect and it was a disaster. As the cream kicked in my erection began to deflate very quickly and I was not even really able to penetrate my Wife/Mistress/Keyholders very snug anatomy. I ended up more angry than anything and that was the only time we tried it. Her general feeling was that she did not really need penetration anymore anyway and that the hot grinding and making out and her vibrator more than satisfy her. I do know how much she used to like being taken hard and fast in our early days and how we would also grind until she climaxed and then would have me quickly enter her and thrust to my climax which would usually put her over the top again. I remind her of all of this and how me strapping on a dildo would still give her the control she craves while I would be pounding away feeling nothing but the anal plug attached to my strap on harness tormenting my prostate meanwhile suffering the indignity of being limp and leaking in my device. I also mentioned to her that I may end up climaxing from the anal stimulation which I thought she might might find sexy and hot in a very devious way….yet I get the usual, “I will have to think about it.” I also found hypersensitivity and PE are the downside of longterm denial (she was amused) and lockup so trying to add that in to give her penetration without my orgasm is useless in my opinion because the two times I have been in her in the last 4 years may total a minute and a half before I could not hold back. The least recent orgasm came in just over a minute…I was all set to settle in and allow myself to calm a bit and she started pawing at my nipples and raising her awesome feet and pretty painted toes to my face to kiss and suck and I lost all control to her delight even though I begged her to stop so I could try to make it last…I felt so weak and pathetic because I was unable to resist my primal urge to thrust and it was over…the last time over 2 years ago I barely got inside her and she started clenching on me and plucking my nipples again and with nary a thrust I felt my orgasmic trigger cock and I helplessly thrusted like 10 times because I feared I would only get a tingle and go limp and dribble. I can still see her closing her eyes and smiling and feeling her wrapping he legs around me as I groaned in humiliating resignation as I came.

I have no real solution to your problem except to say that whenever my wife wants penetration, we do so in the scissors position. She prefers it that way because I can concentrate on her top half while she can bring herself off while I’m inside her. She prefers me to keep still while she’s doing it therefore I feel only a little sensation. I’m sure if I were moving inside her I would find it much more difficult to control myself.