All you ask in return is that he wear a chastity device to assure you that he isn’t masturbating behind your back and to come to the realization that he can still make love to you without the need for penetration and ejaculation, that the romantic benefits from this are worth the sacrifice.

Tears and drama are normal, chastity is not easy for a man. What he needs is exactly what you’ve given him, a firm, disciplined yet loving hand. If you choose to go the route of permanent chastity, that is absolutely your prerogative and I respect that.  I like working hard to prove to my wife that I deserve an orgasm every month, it gives me something to look forward to and makes it go a little easier on me. This is just my opinion and it may not work for your desires or the direction you wish to take, so I totally understand and respect that and your husband is just going to have to accept it.

I’m of the opinion that looking at photos of women, be it a lingerie or swimsuit ad, the Victoria’s Secret show on tv, or even online porn, while masturbating is extremely disrespectful of women. Even masturbating to the thought of a woman you saw down the street or at work is disrespectful. It’s not only disrespectful of the man’s significant other, but it is also disrespectful of women in general.

It’s almost as if because I know that masturbation is no longer an option and it’s something my wife greatly disapproves of, I’m forced to look beyond a woman’s appearance or clothing, no matter how she’s dressed and how sexually aroused I am. No longer is it a woman’s responsibility to dress in a way that doesn’t arouse me, rather, it’s my responsibility to control my urges and treat her with respect.

My wife thinks the act of me ejaculating to the thought or image of another woman is disrespectful to her, to the woman I’m imagining or viewing while doing it, and to women in general, which I agree with. I find that my view and treatment of women completely changes for the better when I’m not allowed to masturbate to them.