An interesting aspect to the FemDom practice of male orgasm denial is the sexual impact it has on women. Few things rival the sexual intensity that a woman will experience when she denies her husband sexual orgasms while she enjoys as much pleasure as she desires. It is a psychological power exchange that releases more of a woman’s
dominant nature and sexual desires. Women begin to not only enjoy the benefits of male orgasm denial outside of the bedroom but also the benefits inside of the bedroom. Male orgasm denial is all about control and the woman who controls her man’s orgasms ultimately controls her man.
A man being kept denied while pleasuring a woman is an incredible experience. The intensity of sex for a woman that is being orally serviced by a denied and passionate man will surpass most sexual experiences for the female. Likewise, few things rival the mental pleasure that the denied man experiences when he is being denied while required to sexually satisfy his Mistress.
There are women who deny their men longer and limit them to only one orgasm every ten days to two weeks. Then there are women who think one or two orgasms a month is sufficient.
I have always been allowed to worship her body and have occasional intercourse with my wife. However, I have now been cut off from intercourse. Once again, this adds to my submission to her and her power over me. I must say that so far, I am enjoying these new power
dynamics. I am more motivated to submit to her and I cannot get enough of my wife. I long to be in her presence and to serve her in some capacity. I actually ache to touch her but I am no longer allowed the freedom of a husband to touch her whenever I want. I am only allowed to touch her if she gives me permission, and that is rare. Touching her is now a privilege and a reward for obedient behavior.
She now wields enormous power over me and she is able to take me to subspace with ease, sometimes with only a few spoken and teasing words
It is frustrating to live with such a sexual woman but be denied access to her body. Yet, on those occasions that she allows me the privilege to worship her body or orally service her body, it is so intense and special. I feel like I have just been granted permission to touch and pleasure a supermodel or a movie starlet. Think about it? How many husbands take their wives and sex with their wives for granted? I never do because it is now rare that I get to touch my Goddess and each time is like the first time I have ever been with her. That is what cuckolding has done for our relationship.
I dominated my husband with an energy and a dominance that I had never known. I was extra bitchy and forceful with him. I had such a power surging through my body. He was a little upset but he quickly yielded to my power and I took him deep into subspace. We had a marathon strap-on session that night. I broke him to a new level of submission.
When a woman humiliates her husband to this degree, it actually becomes a form of mental sex between her and her husband. Her abusive and cruel ways might excite him and touch his submissive nature in ways that most would not understand.
When I humiliate my husband about being an inferior male or about the inadequacy of his penis, I am attacking his male ego. I am wounding his male pride, which causes his submissive nature to come forth. I find I can get my husband to perform better outside the bedroom by complimenting him and showing him genuine love, respect and affection. But inside the bedroom, that is a different story. I like to humiliate him about being of the male gender and thus inferior to me. My goal with humiliation play is to shatter his male ego and the best way I’ve found to do this, is to attack his manhood (especially the ultimate symbol of his manhood, the penis). He gets excited about this kind of humiliation play and this transports him to subspace.
Without ever condoning my failures, or pretending she is not insulted by them and displeased with me, my wife has graciously conceded that there are some benefits in my impotence for her. That is, provided it makes me more aware of the gulf between her superiority and my inferiority and provided this awareness drives me yet more diligently to seek to serve her better in other ways so that I compensate by becoming the best house slave I can be. I must admit to feeling completely inadequate as a man, but so grateful to my wife for so generously taking advantage of this fact and exploiting it to her advantage.
It makes me feel so much better about my impotence knowing that at least my wife enjoys having me trying to compensate her by more diligent service in other ways, especially doing all the household chores. I am so grateful to her and pleased to be married to such a wonderful, superior and considerate woman. Indeed, because of my wife’s wonderfully generous response to my impotence, I feel I have fallen in love with her all over again, but this time I am totally in debt to her.
Of course my wife has quite explicitly made it crystal clear that she can quite happily live without my feeble efforts to make love to her, but just occasionally, when she is in the mood, she is gracious enough still to let me try to please her, when I have earned enough points to deserve a treat. Almost always this ends in failure and humiliation for me. The frustration of sexual denial is probably far greater than that of any chastity device as there is no chance of ultimate relief. My wife is very subtle as she leaves me to make all the running, asking for opportunities for intimacy; she then strings me along, sometimes from one week to the next, never knowing when she will oblige. When I then fail as a man, I guess I end up feeling even worse about letting my wife down, as it was I that asked to try and give her pleasure, only to fail yet again.
My wife is actually using my impotence to manipulate me to her advantage. Perhaps this is why she has always implied I should just accept my lot in life and that I am making a mountain out of a molehill by seeking medical treatment for my impotence. The idea of any sort of medical consultation together is something she has firmly rejected; it is my problem as an inferior male and that is the end of it. It is not worth spending money on treatment for something so trivial in her eyes, “think of all the real illnesses other people have to put up with.” My wife really does welcome my impotence as a weapon she can use to make me behave towards her, as she wants.