My Mistress, quite some time ago, decided that she wasn’t enjoying our PIV sex. As the head of our relationship that was her choice. I never felt less valued or appreciated. There was no less intimacy. I was not caged back then. We didn’t even know of chastity, but I was put in panties as our roles were gradually reversed. She wanted to be in charge in the bedroom.

Once we discovered chastity, now it can’t happen, and I’m very reminded of that. I know Mistress misses being able to freely play with her toys, but she does help herself to the parts available. Of course if she wants to play or allow me an infrequent squirt (her word) she simply unlocks it.

Of course it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t get what she wants and needs. I have a long and useful tongue.

My wife doesn’t get much, if any, satisfaction from my smaller than average penis. So she doesn’t miss it much when it’s locked up. She is naturally sexually dominant and a sadist, so she loves that aspect, and she very much enjoys my submission and servitude and total compliance. And it infuriates her at times just how much I masturbate (hint: A LOT) when I’m left to my own devices, so she insists that I am always locked. She has forbidden any more masturbation in our marriage.

So the devious reasons for keeping me locked up?
1. It’s not needed, or the preferred way of pleasing her. Since she started to actually believe in and actively live as her role, she no longer felt obligated to include me in her pleasure. I’m quite small, and she enjoys something bigger. We have toys and a powerful wand, and my penis doesn’t need to be unlocked for either. So her pleasure is the focus, and mine is a reward, since my pleasure has little to nothing to do with hers.

2. She has threatened about extended lock ups as a punishment, caught jerking would be a year etc, but for the most part, locked is just a means to an end. A tool to keep me submissive and keep me or anyone else away from her stuff.

Mistress Tina prefers my attitue much better when I am locked. I am very seldom every unlocked. She prefers that I orally worship her ass and pussy before she masturbates to orgasm in front of me. Often times she just tells me to sit across the bedroom and watch. When we do have sex she prefers that I wear a thick strap on over my cage.

On very special occasion when she allows PIV sex I am required to apply a generous amount of numbing cream followed by two condoms so I have no feeling and do not get to have an orgasm.

Since she locked me over 3 years ago are closer and more intimate then we were the previous 22 years were married. Mistress Tina says that having me locked is very romantic and is the best thing she has ever done for us.

I’ve read a lot of Dommes who practice chastity and not very many of them seem to like sex, especially PIV, with their submissive. This seems very typical for D/slave relationships.

Let me describe our typical sexual encounter… I lay down on the bed, and she positions herself above me in a 69 position — although her face above my meager penis is at most for teasing with a strand of her hair or her hot breath, never any measurable sexual gratification for me. She is naked and I’m usually wearing panties to catch my (pre-)cum, and I think maybe because she doesn’t want to look at my tiny penis while she’s ‘having sex.’ We start with me licking her to at least one orgasm. As she writhes on my face and shudders and moans into her orgasm my little penis hardens in its cage and/or panties. I don’t have control over my ejaculations, and I’ve been known to cum at this early stage…

When she is ready she says “I need a cock in me NOW!” Sometimes I’ll ask if she wants mine, and she will ignore the question, or laugh, or say “Don’t be stupid. I need a real cock!” With her still on top of me I reach into the night stand and find her favorite dildo, take it out of its bag, and then I suck and lick it for a bit to get it wet. As I slide it into her I lick her clit and work my tongue alongside the shaft. She mashes down onto my face, and I work the dildo in and out of her while frantically trying to work my tongue as much as I can. She will scold me if my tongue isn’t pleasing her enough or if the dildo isn’t in the right place with the right motion. This continues until she is satisfied — usually by another spectacular orgasm, sometimes by more smaller orgasms. And then she gets up, puts on her clothes, and orders me to clean up.

Occasionally, if I’m not locked up and if I haven’t already cum in my panties she lets me masturbate in her presence or even very rarely onto her backside. If she is so inclined she just lays there bored and uninvolved. But most of the time she leaves me with no sexual satisfaction.

I was talking to her recently about her decision to stop allowing PIV sex. I thought it was mainly because of my small, inadequate penis. But when the topic turned to my lack of orgasm control, she indicated that was a big factor too. She definitely considers me a premature ejaculator.

I think she likes chastity mostly because of the control over me and the resulting submission and servitude. And I think she is somewhat sadistic and loves denying me the masturbation I so very much love and desire. She couldn’t possibly use it to help me store a big load for her, as you said, because if I’ve been locked a while I will most certainly cum within seconds, or even before I’m inside her.

– didn’t complain when i do chores wrong
– comfortable with chastity but doesnt like the cage
– doesn’t care if im locked for 3-4 days
– says no if she really feels strongly
– says “you could do this chore differently”
– happier with my housework
– no longer worried about *her* penis
– keeps me locked until she has a use for her penis
– tells me no easily
– tells me what to do and how to do it
– limits the focus to just her sexual pleasure

I was very lucky to get a very good key holder,and she not only stopped me from jerking off, she was able to train me not to have erections and/or cums. Now, I’ve managed to be pussy-free for about 22 1/2 months.

However, when you agree to be kept by your Key Holder, her wishes for your fate override your fantasies of chastity. Mine wanted me to be erection-free, cum-free, and pussy-free, for life. I agreed with her, and it’s been one of the best things that’s ever happened to me.

I have only been allowed PIV sex once in the last couple years, on our anniversary, which was over 5 months ago. I was not allowed to be inside my wife for quite some time before that, as I had pledged to her and to more than one online mistress that I would no longer look at, touch, or be inside a women’s vagina again, except as allowed by my wife, for instance, to lick her to orgasm. But I think my wife wanted to do it just to remind me what I can never have again and make me long for it more… which absolutely worked. Or maybe she needed to confirm that she wasn’t missing out on anything… I remember that event like it was just moments ago. She told me to put on one of my small condoms and then climbed on top of me. She couldn’t move much at all because I would fall out, but I thrust my hips the tiny amount I could. She told me she couldn’t feel a thing and wasn’t even sure it was in. I had to assure her it was, as the feeling was quite intense for me. She laughed and said she hoped I enjoyed it because it would be the last time she ever wasted her time with my inferior penis. And then I came. And that 20-30 seconds will stay engraved in my mind for possibly the rest of my life.