If you were to ask my husband, he would say his life is much more edifying and productive with a strong resolute female controlling his ejaculation schedule.

I think “Helicoptering the Dog” is a good analogy for setting the terms of entry to your vagina and a good metaphor for the kind of resolve it can take to keep a man from releasing in the throws of passion. Remember, I said “metaphor.” It’s just a stern verbal reminder (and maybe a slap with it) of who’s in charge of the schedule, and it’s not him. He sometimes needs to be reminded of what his life now is, and the Terms of Entry need to be repeated periodically as he’s completely out of his mind with passion. Don’t forget he’s receiving the best sex he’s ever had, and he’ll be grateful for your resolve maybe a half hour after intercourse is over and his head is starting to clear, and when his ejaculation day does arrive, it will be the sweetest release he’s ever had.

I think you should restrain him so that you can really take your time beating him, and be confident that you are really in charge (he needs to feel that as well – and restraining him makes him feel completely in your power). A belt wrapped around and around his ankles is a good start. You need to pull extra hard as you are tightening it because when it settles back in it loosens, and as he wiggles around and kicks it loosens as well. You can also consider a second belt around his knees as well. This keeps his thighs together and prevents any chance of accidentally strapping his balls.

I personally like beating him until I see some bruising. Red is not even in question: he should be deep red. Beat him until you see him really sweating. There should also be tears in his eyes. It’s not that he cries exactly, it’s more like the pain is just so great that the tears leak out on their own.

For a proper beating, keep at it for at least thirty minutes, something around 300 strokes or so should get the message across.

You need to get him past the first 100 or so, after that he numbs up a bit and can take the strokes easier, but that is where the strokes that will cause him the deeper, longer lasting soreness will be doled out, so don’t skimp on these if you would like to see him in discomfort for the rest of the day, and maybe well into the next, which is fun.

Yes he will be a pitiful sight to behold, but he’ll be just fine from almost the moment you stop, with just the residual soreness. But a beating like this can be very cathartic for a subby male, and he will love you even more for doing it to him. Even the soreness will be a badge of honour for him, and something you can tease him about for days. He will not be injured even though his bum will look very beaten up.

I don’t like to just end a beating like this casually. I will put him against the wall, bare beaten bum showing, holding up a coin with his nose. If you beat him in the bedroom, then take him nude into the living room for this. The unfamiliar surroundings will add to his distress. Make sure to let him know that if he drops the coin, he will be beaten again. If he does drop it, you absolutely must carry through on the promise, and then start his timeout from the beginning again. Fifteen minutes can be a very long time to him, and is what I generally use for timeout.

After he is done, allow him to come out and make him crawl over and kiss your feet and thank you for beating him so severely. You may then take some pity on him, and perhaps rub some cream into his bottom. Despite the beating he is usually horny after I do this (especially if I let my hand stray when applying cream or lotion). I will allow him to jerk himself off while I watch so long as he swallows his mess afterwards.

Yes. All you subby boys are the same. The thought of such a beating makes you hard and makes you want to jerk off. But the reality of it limpens you quickly, and makes you very sorry you ever asked for spankings in the first place.

That is why a good beating is so effective. Some part of you wants it, so you submit to it, but then it really is punishment, and you will change your behaviour to avoid another one (for the next few weeks at least).

I also enjoy doling out the middle of the road spankings, because it solidifies who is in charge, who wears the pants in the family. But I don’t fool myself for one minute that it is punishment: it’s more like woman-on-top sex, and something he wants, and I am happy to give him things he wants when he is behaving well. It’s actually more reward than punishment for subby boys.

Until a subby feels a real honest to goodness punishment beating that he does not want to repeat, he is just topping from the bottom. The true test of his submissiveness is whether he will submit to a beating like this, and kiss your feet afterwards.

So, how is it your husband is enjoying these beatings he would never want to repeat, i.e., the kind of beatings he must endure to avoid the stigma of a person who “tops from the bottom”?

I mean, his bottom looks like it lost a gang fight. If that is not “past his limits,” what could those limits possibly be?

I really want to know this because it’s unclear whether your husband wants the types of restrained, gagged, severe beatings you’re giving him or not, and it seems breathtakingly cruel.

After the whipping he got on Thursday, L. has been exceptionally well-behaved – but, this being the weekend, he was put through his usual paces, which involves bringing me breakfast in bed wearing the summary attire (nothing from the waist down except for a short apron) , and having the list of his morning chores ‘printed’ on his derrière with the martinet. His performance of those domestic chores was pretty good, and he needed only a couple of reminders over the two days – one with a switch and the other with the kitchen spoon. Good boy!

What he does do to get me lathered up is try to be dominant in bed without permission. He knows asking something like “can we have sex?” will earn him a super hard beating followed by a long hard lesson in bending over and fucking! Ha Ha! I love it when he tries that! He gets no sex at all and has to remain in his tiny chastity tube 24/7/365.

My wife likes to have me wear bra panties garter belt and hose plus 4″ heels and a bib apron that ties behind my back and neck when I cook and serve her dinner.