So I recently met a very dominant girl who seems absolutely perfect for me, she is into pretty much every kink I am, and more on top of that! So far things have been going pretty well and I have been really enjoying our relationship.

We are both very into chastity, but she especially gets off on complete and total chastity, like no teasing, no erections but long term hardcore chastity. Even going so far as only allowing it to be taken off every 3-5 days to clean in the shower supervised, with SEVERE punishment for any erection.

Now I am very much into chastity, but previously whenever I have done this it has always come along with tease and denial. I am finding it a little difficult to deal with. I can’t say she ignores my chastity and forgets about it she actually loves it and is constantly grabbing it and playing with the cage in her hands at every opportunity.

Is there anyone out there in a similar situation who has some advice? I think she knows how hard it is to be in complete chastity and thats what gets her off so much, which I love. I’m just finding it VERY difficult to deal with.

My wife hasn’t released me in 501 says and has no intention of ever releasing me again. That’s permanent

The first time I was ‘punished’ was after dinner one night. I was to do the dishes and my Wife had a specific way She wanted them done. I failed miserably. When She checked my work, I could see She was upset I failed to “listen”. She looked at me and said, “sit over there” and pointed to a chair in our living room. I sat down and for the next 20 minutes, my Wife lectured me on doing dishes. She was not mad, she was stern and very clear about what I did wrong and what was expected of me moving forward. She made me repeat things She said, She pointed at me and put Her hands on her hips. She was glowing with power. When She finished, we hugged and kissed. I apologized very sincerely and before I knew it, she retrieved a chastity device and had my penis completely locked away.

Afterward, I asked Her how it felt. She said She had never felt so relieved in our entire relationship. She said the fact She could express herself and I just ‘listen’ was so arousing and empowering that Her pussy was literally leaking during Her lecture. For me, Her taking control and just saying what She really felt was also arousing to me.

And this is Her favorite punishment for me. The lecture. It has grown over time into a more formal thing with Her. I have a specific lecture chair. If I am told to sit there, I know what it coming. Sometimes She will have me sit there for a bit while She does Her makeup and puts on nice clothes. She likes to look a certain way now when she lectures me. Lectures are events in our home. She turns off the TV and all distractions. There is a light by the chair She shines on me. I am usually naked for lectures now. She does this to humiliate me. It works. Lectures can last a half an hour or more sometimes. She enjoys hearing me admit to my failures and my promises to improve for Her. After these lectures, She is typically aroused. I don’t necessarily get to orgasm but we generally engage in some sort of sexual activity once She has finished lecturing me.

In the last year, my Wife has occasionally lectured me in public. I find this more humiliating than sitting naked in a chair. She knows this, which is part of the reason She is doing it. But the end result is an amazingly loving relationship. I get lectured maybe once a week. Yes, it’s an event and She really lets me have it but I learn about Her and what is bothering Her instead of arguing with her and getting nowhere.

My wife recieved her new cage for me, a Lori 2a with anti pull out ring yesterday. Never seen her so excited before. She took off my other cage and locked the Lori on me. Fit like a glove. I think the pull out ring really isnt needed but she wanted it included to discourage any attempts by me to pull it out. I dont think its posdible to pull out especially with the ring in there.
One more month and it will be 1 yr locked. My wife has told me before that being locked up is going to be permanent. With this latest purchase, I believe her.
As far as function this cage is high quality. Its very secure, this one could actually be escape proof. No way to get to security screw, it is recessed deeply. It looks like if you could get to it you would end up stripping the head and then it would never come out….not telling my wife just incase, she might want to do that so it never comes off.
Price was good and totally custom fitted. Good cage thats very affordable.
My penis is totally trapped and out of my control.

It is very good at keeping ya honest. does yours have the anti pull out in it. My wife keeps the keys in a bio metric safe that only her finger opens, I couldn’t get the keys even if I wanted too. Im coming up on 1 yr locked. After that 1 yr mark I will probably stop keeping track because she has said that this is how it will be from now on, and that was after the first month. If she wasn’t serious about keeping me locked up she would have let me out after a few days and she wouldn’t have had the Lori made.
I have to accept that this is permanent. Some days Im ok with it but other days Im not.

Your ambivalence is so sexy, and so normal for long-term chastity, I think. She’s really in charge, we really don’t have free erections anymore.

Well you definitely have the firm wife part right. There is no life for me anymore without this cage. Knowing this has changed me a lot. My feeling about this change day to day. Some days I desperately want it gone and I regret ever letting her have this power over me. Other days Im ok with it cause it makes her so happy. The happy wife always wins. It has made our marriage a lot better. I focus my energy on her more than myself. Before it was all about me. I was a habitual masturbator. I played more with myself and neglected her, which I’m totally ashamed off.
I was the one who first locked myself up and then that night confessed to her what was going on. It seemed like the only solution. It was a solution that I didnt want to do but didnt know any other way. I wanted to save our marriage. It has worked.
I have to confess that I am happier with my wife than I have been in years. We are having more fun and enjoying life more these days.
I guess until I accept that fact that this cage is a permanent part of me the better I will be. In 1 month it will be a year. Ask me in a month how I feel and I will give you an honest answere as an update.

I’m no longer allowed to masturbate supervised or not she has made it clear that it is hers to play with as she pleases.

I was permitted supervised masturbation almost every night until my wife determined that she wanted me placed in chastity. This would almost always consist of me humping my diaper until I would make sissies although there was different variations. Sometimes I would be put into the corner with my nose litterally against the wall as she sat in our bed. I was instructed to hump the wall while she verbally humiliated me. Most of the time I would just lay on the bed and hump one of our big fluffy pillows. She would have me look into her eyes and almost always remind me that this is what I deserved and that my sissies belong in my dirty diapers so they can ne thrown away in the trash can. Since my wife just got fucked in our bed by her boyfriend I am sure she will remind me of this if I am permitted supervised masturbation in our bed again.

If I have been a really good girl then sometimes she allows me to hump her leg or bottom. That is a specail treat. One time she put a heating pad between her leg and my diaper and that was a special treat while humping.

My experience after a long lockup is that it is really nice emotionally to have and see my erection again, although it’s smaller and the tissue is a little unforgiving. Last time I was a little surprised that my orgasm wasn’t as satisfying as I had hoped. It came quick, to be sure (pun intended), and there was more fluid than usual, but it kind of dribbled out. And it wasn’t earth shattering by any standards.

I’m not allowed to ask for a removal of my cage unless I have a problem. I also can not ask for a release. Like b-quark she’ll extend my time. I have gone a very long time with no release. I too was somewhat disappointed in the feeling of cumming.

I cannot answer that question as my lock period is still ongoing, now close to 6 years. But prior to that was 1 year as a trial for the current session. I begged my wife to let me have an erection at least once a year and she said no.

My husband has been locked with a PA device since January 1 2018 which is a day we both agreed on to start a new chapter in our marriage. A whole two months before that we got his PA so his had time to heal before his two week fuck fest were he was allowed anything anytime anywhere. On 1st the first device went on. Since then I’ve changed his device 6 times, sometimes as planned sometimes not so planned. But even then his penis was only unlocked for a few minutes. InitaInit he complained about chaffing, itching, erections were painful (as pained) and he dripped alot of precum during our sexual activities, and his drive was up and down and he was very confrontational at times, oh and wet dreams a big no no 282 days in I’ve can say I’m very proud of him. He’s in a heavier steel device that can only be cut off if need be (by emt with small cutters or such event). He’s very docile and obedient in my presence yet his libido is at a regular and maintained high. He no longer becomes erect but he still gets drippy when he’s very ecexcit. I do allow him to orgasm via prostate stimulation about every 60 days or so… I help him achieve them through pegged with a strap on. We’re both still learning alot and have a long way to go.

I’ve been locked in permanent chastity, for the most part, for 3 years. Occasional release with numbing cream and condoms when wife wants me inside her, but no orgasm for me. I have been I locked in custom made cages for the past 2 1/2 years but 3 months ago got my first custom made cage with PA hook for my new piercing. I have been out once with numbing cream and condom since getting locked in this new cage.

Last week I sent flowers to my wife at work and then took her out to dinner for our 21st wedding anniversary. I also bought her a new Hitach Magic Wand because she wore out the old one. I thought this would be the first anniversary she would release me for sex. Boy was I wrong. When I asked she put her hand around my neck then gently patted me on the side of my face and said “You are so cute..No, that won’t be happening” then kissed me. She told me that if I was lucky I could watch her masturbate in bed that evening.

Later that evening when we were going to bed she lit one small candle and turned off the lights. She told me that I could watch her but only from across the room. I stood naked in my cage about 15 feet away and could only make out a silhouette of her body. She pushed the bed sheets asides to give me a better view then stared playing with her pussy. She was getting so wet I could hear the moisture as she dipped her fingers inside. After about 10 minutes of moaning and breathily heavil she had 3 orgams with the help of her magic wand. She said “Happy Anniversary ” then instructed me to get into bed and spoon her. That was the end to our 3rd anniversary with me locked in chastity.

I was promised a blow job on my wedding anniversary but at dinner in a nice restaurant my wife caught me looking at a young woman’s ankle boots. There was obviously no blow job and I was given one full month in chastity

Just passed through our Anniversary week with no orgasm. 🙁 I’m only permitted a handful of spurts per year, usually around special days, and traditionally our Anniversary has been one of them. (The last was in a national park on vacation in August.)

This Anniversary week, I was permitted a caged worship session — yum, my favorite type of sex — and, a few days later, I was unlocked and permitted a full throbbing erection. She used her Magic Wand to multiple moaning orgasms and then put the head of her erection inside and continued with her Wand. Finally she permitted full entry into heaven but closed her legs to any thrusting. When I calmed down she rolled me over and rode her erection to more orgasms, denying permission to spurt, before telling me she was done and to pull out. While I was relocking she asked again about how the numbing cream works.

With Locktober starting soon — full denial, no erections — it’s starting to look like it might be Christmas or New Years….

Mine ONLY does it to tease me. She loves to grope it when it’s locked up, just to drive me crazy. And when I’m not locked up she will often touch it for a few seconds – just enough to get me horny and wanting more – and then stop.

When she wants sex she has me lay on my back and she gets on all fours over me in a 69 position so that I can eat her out and then continue licking her while she gets fucked by her huge dildo. In this position she either refuses to touch me at all (even though her face and hands and breasts are all right there), or she sometimes lets her long blonde hair and/or her hot breath tease my little penis. But if I try to touch it myself or lift my hips to try to get my penis nearer to her, she will smack it hard and tell me to stop. It’s all about her pleasure.

it was a long long time ago but I don’t mind now I am milk every 8 weeks and that’s nice.

Drop or no drop it’s still playing with the penis and making it erect and making it drip, otherwise known as masturbation. Which is why you’re locked and why it’s good you don’t have the keys.

Now I’m about to finish my sixth week in the cage without so much as time out for teasing or even an erection. I’m seriously considering getting down on my knees and begging her for sex. I made a serious attempt to get her interested last night and while she enjoyed the attention she gave me a firm “no.” She’s had a few orgasms in the time I’ve been locked up and many foot rubs. I get teased before bed, she’ll then roll over and sigh… “sleep well.”

She has become much more comfortable with her role as keyholder while I am beginning to regret asking her to deny me quite so vigorously.

Be careful what you wish for…

My attitude is not just towards Chastity. I believe in my Goddess having total control. I adore her, and trust her never to abuse that power, but the power is hers and hers alone. I often wish she would be ‘meaner’

My wife made me get a PA piercing last summer after she found that I was able to pull out in the hot tub. I wasn’t able to pull out under normal circumstances. Only after things were warm, loose and shriveled up. She had seen the Rigid PA cages and knew it would do the job. I gradually stretched from a 10 ga to a 2 ga and ordered my cage in late Febuary of this year. It took 4 months to arrive after it was custom made and delivered from Poland.

She threaded the PA hook through my little clit 2 months ago and I haven’t been out since. I’ve been in permanent chastity for over three years and have rarely been released. On the few occasions I have its only for a short few minutes.

My wife is loving life and is the happiest she has been in the last 20 years of marriage. She says her sex life is the best it has ever been since she locked me up. Now my focus is no longer about me, and is all about her. I now believe that it is my duty to make sure she cums as often as she wants while I remain locked. I have purchased her a wide variety of new sex toys that she loves to play with while I am at work. As I snuggle up to her in bed when I get home from work she loves to rub it in and tell me how many orgams she had before I got home.

One of my favorite things to do is to fuck her with our strapon that I wear over my cage. It is much thicker and longer then me. The look on her face when her eyes roll back in her head and she moans as I slide into her is priceless.

Here are eight quick and easy way sto squeeze “free will” out of any man and turn him into your eager love servant.

1. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT.  Before you can turn your man into your love slave, you have to decide just what it is you want your slave to do.  Not every woman wants sex (or a man to clean the bathroom).  When it comes to goals, shoot for the moon.  Is expecting your man to scrub toilets, wash and iron clothes, wash windows, mop floors, bring you flowers, and make made PASSIONATE love to you AND work full-time to bring home part of the bacon too much to expect?”  Heck, no.

2.  CUT HIM OFF.  Sex is the best training tool you’ve got, and denying it to your man is the quickest way to turn him into your slave.  For some guys, you’ll have to wait a few days for others, a month or two – but sooner or later, he’ll drop to his knees and promise you ANYTHING if you just agree to hive him some lovin’.

3.  DON’T BE AFRAID TO SHOW AFFECTION – AND TAKE IT AWAY.  Men desperately want women to love them unconditionally and approve of everything they do.  Use this weakness to your advantage by acting affectionately toward your man when he’s good and giving him icy stares and the silent treatment when he’s bad.

4.  BE VERY HARD TO PLEASE.  When your slave does something to make you happy, let him know that it’s O.K., but could be better. If he scrubs the shower clean, for example, make sure you find a few spots he missed.

5.  DON’T PRAISE HIM TOO MUCH.  Men who get lots of praise start thinking they’re acceptable just the way they are. An occasional “that’s fine” or “not bad” is plenty of back-patting.

6.  REWARD BREAKTHROUGH BEHAVIORS.  When a man cleans the toilet for the first time or mends a rip in your dress on his own without being coerced, a quickie love session or special meal will get his attention. Just make sure he understands the breakthrough chore is something you expect him to do from now on BEFORE you give him the sexual reward.

7.  DON’T BE AFRAID TO PUNISH YOUR SLAVE.   If he lets you down make him pay.  If he’s embarrassed when you call him “a dud in bed” in front of his friends, for example, invite them over for a barbecue – and let him have it.  Make sure he knows exactly why you’re all over his care.

8.  TO ERR IS HUMAN, TO FORGIVE IS EVEN WORSE.

You must hold a grudge when your slave gets lazy or lets you down in any way.  Bring up his failings often to keep him focused and avoid future letdowns.

I have been married to him for twenty-five years now. In all that time, I have never called him by his given name. I call him slave. Even in public I call him slave. Of course, there are times I also call him by other names such as worm, dog, slut. Etc. I have a twenty-four-year-old daughter. All her life she also has only called him slave. He is not her father, on our wedding night I locked him in chastity, and have never had intercourse with him. Her father is one of the various men I have had sex with during my marriage. Which one does not matter. I might add that the W. represents my family name I had him legally change his to mine. Which is only right since I am the head of the family.

1) In the house slave must be naked at all times, unless I allow him to wear items of clothing. Slave’s work clothes, and any other male clothes allowed slave outside the house shall be kept in the garage. Slave shall strip, and put on, when approved, any approved house clothing before entering.

2) Slave my not speak to me or my daughter except to answer a question, or when given permission to speak. When wanting to speak, slave may not speak to ask permission. A hand signal will be used.

3) When answering a question, or making a statement, slave must precede all speech with the word Mistress, or Miss whichever is appropriate.

4) Whether in or out of the house slave may never address me, or my daughter by name. When speaking to me he must address me as Mistress, and when speaking to my daughter he must address her as Miss.

5) Every evening slave will appear before me and any other female(s) I invite. Slave will bring with him a tray holding a hairbrush or paddle, a crop or cane, and a whip. Slave will then confess to us all his deeds of commission, and omission, all his errors done that day, and all his thoughts that I might find offensive. Anything that we or any other female present knows of and not listed will be added to the list. If slave has nothing to confess it is assumed that he is withholding information to escape punishment. This merit’s the most extreme punishment. Then slave must beg us to punish him. After I punish him, any woman in the room will have the opportunity to punish him. Following that slave must thank me for his punishment.

6) Although locked in chastity, and not permitted any form of sexual release, slave must provide sexual release to me. Such release shall be provided through cunnilingus.

Sometime back I began a review at the end of each day. I review William’s behavior through the day and notify him about which things earned him merits for obedience or demerits for disobedience. I do this each evening, when we both arrive home from work and again at bedtime. I do it a couple of times when we are together all day on weekends. William lives to earn merits and avoid demerits.

He is awarded merits for things like completion of chores, giving me a complete body massage, a pedicure, or putting a good shine on my boots and work pumps. He can receive demerits when he ignores me when he’s watching TV, interrupts me or corrects me in social settings, or becomes bratty.

At bedtime I review his tally of merits and let him know whether he has earned enough to earn rewards such as being granted the privilege of worshiping my feet or derriere, being allowed out of his chastity device for a few minutes to touch his penis, or if he has earned enough to be allowed to masturbate or receive a handjob from me.

The merits and demerits system has proven very helpful in developing William as a more obedient, submissive and obsequious husband. One of my pet peeves when we are out socializing, is when William corrects me or interrupts me when we are talking. When he has a few drinks, he has a tendency to become very loquacious and he sometimes dominate social conversation. I have developed a look I can give him with just a very subtle raise of an eyebrow that lets him know that he is earning demerits. It has become very effective at silencing him. He has become such a polite companion when we are out and has helped him develop much better listening skills. Other wives often comment on how polite and respectful he is toward me and others. Other wives have asked me what my secret is.

Begin conditioning. Men, like Pavlov’s dogs, can be conditioned over time. You can move their sense of reality. Punish infractions with punishments that he is truly frightened of and desperate to avoid. Over time, doing all the chores becomes a normal (though dull) part of his life and there is an acceptance in him that that is the way it is. The same phenomenon applies to waiting on you hand-and-foot and to his restricted sexual relief and freedom. Get a chastity device. One involving a piercing is best. You will soon begin to experience the rush of having true power over another human being. Power is a huge rush and an aphrodisiac. It has been enjoyed, as such, by men over women for millennia, now women can enjoy it and become aroused and satisfied by it too.

Begin to experiment with your cruelty and sadism. In my early years of dominance, I could not bring myself to accept that I was a sadist. I found the word to be very distasteful. I was still foolishly fettered by society’s norms and standards. But after frequent experiences of intense arousal while inflicting physical or mental pain on my bitch-boy, I accepted that I was a sadist and that I loved sadism. Perhaps it is simply that sadistic activity signifies true power and it is the power that is the aphrodisiac? I don’t know or care.

REWARDS

Being sensitively woken and given tea or coffee in bed every morning. Being waited on hand and foot. Being utterly worshipped in mind and body. As many orgasms on demand as one could want. No household chores. No tedious paperwork or junk mail to deal with. A social life wholly of your choices. A 100% trustworthy partner who will never be unfaithful. Other sexual partners (in my case always female). The intense pleasures of power and sadism.