So today, a week or so after I’ve been denied and locked up in a silicone CB6000s style device, my KH allowed me to massage her legs. I was super horny, and every little touch was making me seconds away from exploding (it really was) and I told her so…

So she turned around to me, and said I had 30 seconds to cum. I was still wearing my device. She started massaging my balls. I was incredibly, incredibly turned on.

30 seconds later.. nada. With a disappointed sigh, she said we’ll try again a week or so later.

I have revoked his rights to anything sexual with me. I will not allow him to see me undressed, nor will he be allowed to touch me during this period of chastity. With his new cage, one that is real, I want to take our relationship to a deeper level. One where he fully understands his place as a submissive man. I am not doing this to be mean to him but rather to reset him so to speak.

I love my husband and how submissive he is but I want to get him to a point where even touching me is precious and not taken for granted. I want him to feel overwhelmed with just grabbing my ass or licking me. I want that for him to feel like having sex.

As of right now I have no idea when I will begin to allow him to touch me, see me undressed, or lick me, but it will be a fairly long time of abstinence before that happens. A while longer still before the cage comes off to reward him for being good. And by being good, I mean he doesn’t ask, doesn’t hint period. It means leaving everything regarding sex to be completely up to me. He has been locked now since Valentines day and I think it will be at least two more months. We will see.

The purpose of this is to establish my position and his. It is a reset. I want to be courted properly and work forward from there. So there is the goal. He expressed that he wanted me to have total control. And I explained to him what that would look like if I was the one driving. He agreed, and so now we are headed down the road.

Now all that said, we still kiss. I hold his hand when we go for our evening walk in the neighborhood. We talk. We laugh. But of his hand wanders then it gets stopped. But again it isn’t permanent. It’s just for a time. And he knows that. He just doesn’t know how much time.

Dear MsKeyholderWife, my Mistress started me in a similar fashion but with an exception: I am trained not to gaze on Her when She removed Her outer clothes, and wear a blindfold when pleasing Her. I’ve not seen Her in any compromising way for a long time.

Although I was never allowed to ask for release (of either kind, from lockup or denial), I would often be grabby, or drop comments… or in general, ‘pressure’ her.

It is obvious why – denial breeds libido, and direct proximity to our beautiful, perfect, nigh-divine goddesses makes every individual hormone molecule stand up and say “that one, now”.

My wife found it annoying, irritating, but worst of all felt that when I was grabby and pushy that any action she took soon after that felt less as though it was her own, and more as though it was in response to my actions – which is directly antithetical to the D/S relationship. It is highly similar to ‘topping from the bottom’ to borrow from another part of the kink constellation.

Such a policy was extremely difficult for me to follow, and I still have lapses. It is un-learning an entire lifetime of arousal responses, and it isn’t easy.

Her decision in this regard was undoubtedly an excellent one, and was very good for our relationship.

Again this is what you want as a man. I don’t want him teased right now. I want him focused on my needs, my wants, not his own. It is interesting that a lot of guys here want denial yet when they get it in a way that does not suit them then all of the sudden the wife or keyholder is doing it wrong. Chastity for us is about my control not his. If I choose not to give him sexual stimulation in any way for a time, as a keyholder don’t I have that right? Of course I know what he wants but I want him to know the difference between want and need. And since I never said that his total abstinence is permanent, I think my requests for it for a time is reasonable.

I obviously want him to adore me. But more than that I don’t want games. I love reality. This is what I want in this relationship and he told me that it was mine for the taking. Not that it isn’t hard for him, I know it is. But the point of all this is to see how true he is to his promise of being totally submissive to me. It is my job to know how he is doing and to gently but firmly guide him in fulfilling his promise to me.

You most definitely should hold your husband to his promises. After all he also agreed to them. In our relationship I may voice my concerns but ultimately my wife decides if there is to be compromise.

We found the exercise of conception actually a bit enjoyable this time as I became nothing more than a stud or sperm donor unlocked to produce my seed when needed…unlocked before heading to the clinic wearing pantyhose or thigh highs provided by her to go produce my seed carrying a pair of her sexy day worn panties in a little silk bag for me to inhale their sweet aroma while mastutbating into the sample cup. Our restart began here. This is where it became “allaboutHer”. Rubbing her swollen, aching feet and back daily during her pregnancy, keeping her toes and feet looking perfect…and me locked with nothing in return except for the privelage of touching her and serving her…and it has pretty much stayed that way ever since. She now happily wears a key charm around her neck and has embraced this. It is not what I planned or expected. I never expected only 2 orgasms in the last 3 years. I did not expect to be sleeping in pantyhose and night shirts 2-3 nights a week. I did not expect to be a supplement to a vibrator and I did not expect to find myself craving my anal plug harness while we ” have sex” (pubic bone to pubic bone grinding like lesbians where she has quaking orgasms and I hold her closely and merely leak and clench on the plug harnessed inside me). It is all very different than I planned….but SHE is happy, and that makes ME happy.

I keep him denied from the beginning of our relationship. He had started to wear chastity device few months later and last two years he is locked 24/7. I have never allowed sex with me nor any masturbation. He is technically still virgin. I know it may sounds odd to someone. But it doesn’t mean I ignore him. It doesn’t mean I do not share intimacy with him. Quite contrary. I think it deepens our relationship. Even if there is no sex in the narrow sense of word there is a lot of intimacy, love and passion.

A btw I want to keep his virginity till our wedding night and it would be first time I will allow him experience orgasm with me.

Whole point is that the focus has to be that it’s now not want he wants out of it but what you want out of it. As he said he wanted you to take control this has to go with the territory. If you want complete abstinence for him, then you are entitled to get it. And he needs the mindset to accept it. And anything else you decide for that matter.

I’m in permanent chastity now, so I won’t be cumming any time soon. I’m told it will be only one time in 2016, so I might get as far as 16 months without a cum. After that, I’ll be counting in years.