So one day about two years ago I sat him down and told him that we were finished and I wasn’t happy. As I expected he cried like a girl and begged me, and said he needed me and would do anything to stay together. And I do enjoy his companionship, so I told him we could stay together but that he needed to make my life easier and take on a whole different role in our relationship. The truth is that with him not working and not being a strong decision maker my old bossy instincts had been coming out more and more, so it was just a matter of formalizing things into a full FLR. He fell into his new role pretty easily although some things were hard, such as having to ask me permission for everything and having no money of his own. But the first few months worked well for both of us.
But gradually he started slacking off, he would still badger me for sex sometimes even though I had made it clear that it was not going to happen, and to make things worse I realized that he was spending most of the day at home masturbating, which explained a lot. So having read extensively about successful FLRs I laid down the law again and he had to very reluctantly accept being locked in a small chastity cage.
The first chastity that I introduced to our relationship was a simple cage, and he adapted pretty well to it. He wasn’t enthusiastic but he was somewhat curious. It was frustrating for him but he seemed to like playing with the cage. Unfortunately it did not provide the level of security or control that I required, which resulted in an upgrade to a full belt.
When I unpacked the belt he actually gasped, it is an intimidating device. The penis goes down a tube so that he can’t touch it, and is pulled back so that he has to sit to pee. The belt also produces a completely flat front so that there is no bulge whatsoever. The belt has a strong psychological effect, because the man is effectively neutered and his manhood made invisible and untouchable. The move from cage to belt was a major change and for several months he did cry silent tears of frustration and anger. The belt is tight and unforgiving, it’s impossible for a man to forget that he is locked and under his wife’s control.
After his releases it is unpleasant for him to be locked up again. I don’t tolerate any whining or begging from him but of course I can tell from his body language and facial expression that he is sad at being belted again, which is understandable.
For the first few days I had him wear the belt for a few hours at a time to break it in, but shortly thereafter I just kept it locked on for days at a time so that he would adjust to it. He learned to endure it. I chose the Arch because it seemed the most practical but I have recently upgraded to a different Neosteel model which provides more control and allows for an anal dildo attachment.
Every relationship is different, but in our FLR the incentive of regular release works perfectly in terms of keeping him in line and motivated, he has developed into the ideal husband for me.
If my husband “grabbed” my ass or boobs he would regret it, since he would be punished in addition to not being released from his belt for a long time.
I do love my husband and enjoy cuddling and kissing. But in our relationship I call the shots. So we are intimate but he knows better than to initiate, and certainly knows never to disrespectfully grab my body or touch me.
My husband does not enjoy being pegged but he has gotten used to it. He does not orgasm from being pegged but he does get hard.
I do not orgasm directly from pegging but it serves as very effective foreplay. It is a great power trip for me. It is amazing to snap on my phallus and look down at my belted husband on his knees with his head bobbing up and down as he lubricates it before I turn him around and thrust hard in his ass. It’s a fantastic experience and the ultimate power trip in some ways, I highly recommend it.
He is not going to ever penetrate me or any other woman but the idea is that he pleasure himself and obtain some release when I allow it, and to look forward to that stimulation while he is locked up and well behaved. However I have not interest in watching him, frankly it disgusts me.
My husband has learned not to make requests, sexual or otherwise. One key to a successful FLR is for the woman to always be in absolute control, once the subordinate begins making requests it´s a slippery slope to a “topping from the bottom scenario”. My husband has been trained to follow my lead, period.
Sometimes we invite friends over and my husband cooks and serves a nice meal. None of our friends know that he is in chastity or the degree that I control him, but we are open about the fact that I am in charge and that he is subservient to me. Sometimes we go out and again I don’t hide the dynamics of our relationship, which is sometimes jarring to strangers. It’s still embarrassing to him and the last vestiges of male pride surface at times but he has gotten used to it when I make it obvious to the outside world that we are in a FLR. Sometimes I go out clubbing or bar hopping with girlfriends and my husband stays home, knowing that I will be checking on him during the evening. Sometimes I go on dates with other men, and of course this has been the hardest adjustment for him. I like to dress very sexy and tease him a bit, and I know it’s not easy for him to iron a sexy outfit and then help me put it on knowing that it’s for another man. However I never bring men home or talk about what happens because that seems excessive. Until very recently I would always meet my dates elsewhere although now I often have them pick me up at home. Sunday is the big day because that is when my husband receives his release from the dreaded belt. Assuming that he has behaved during the week, performed all his chores and stayed under his weight/waist target I remove the belt in the morning and he is free to do whatever he likes, within the confines of our property of course. Depending on how he did during the week I may keep it off for an hour or for the entire day. We may go motorcycle riding, go for a walk to the park, or just stay home and relax. At some point I announce that it’s time and I lock the belt back on, which he has learned to accept without whining.
The carrot is that he gets his weekly release from the belt, and that his mindset has evolved to where he feels pleasure from knowing that I feel pleasure and that I am proud of him for enduring my penetration without whining about it.
I think he’s gotten used to the occasional pegging but he’s never indicated that he likes it or wants it.
My power in the relationship is clear and absolute so I don’t feel the need to find ways to confirm it, however I am gradually making him get used to me demonstrating my control in public.
To earn his weekly release he doesn’t only have to behave well but also complete a lengthy list if chores. So enduring my pegging is really just another chore that is required. He doesn’t enjoy it but does what he has to do.
Just to be clear: the only hand on my husband’s penis is his own and the only thing being penetrated by the dildo is his ass.
You are correct that the full belt goes far beyond just chastity, it has a major psychological effect because the penis is totally inaccessible, not to mention having to sit down to pee and having a perfectly feminine flat front instead of a male bulge.
I know how he feels. Having the belt locked on is excruciatingly frustrating and it hasn’t gotten easier to endure even after all this time. What it does is force him to focus his energy elsewhere and to adopt a mindset that allows him to cope with his situation. Keeping busy and taking pride in completing his many tasks. Deriving pleasure from pleasuring me and gaining my appreciation and approval. It’s hard for outsiders to understand but taking on a new mindset brings him satisfaction and acceptance. Instead of his selfish desires he focuses externally, and instead of being idle he keeps busy so as not to dwell on being locked up.
Besides the issues related to the belt, how does he feel being under my complete control, subservient to me? it’s something he has adjusted to by knowing that he is provided for in every way, that we enjoy our companionship and doing things together, and that he is relieved of the pressure of “being a man” which he had trouble with. In many ways he has sacrificed his manhood, but the upside is not having the stress of being the breadwinner, having to make any decisions, and having to waste time with macho b.s.
It’s a major power rush to be sure! Our arrangement is practical but I don’t deny how the power I have makes me feel. Every morning I wake up with my husband’s manhood locked away while I hold the key, knowing that I have conquered a male to the point that I have his complete obedience and that his life consists of service to me in every way, domestically and sexually. Sometimes I look in the mirror and smile at how I have worked hard to build a dream life and been smart and powerful enough to emasculate a man and make him totally dependent on me. Not too many women can say that. It’s a power trip and hard to describe how satisfying and fulfilling it is, it only gets better with each passing day.
He’s not under my supervision when he masturbates, he does that on his own.
I have no desire to eliminate his orgasms, not only would that be cruel but it would eliminate the incentive to serve me.
He does have a lot of domestic responsibilities and the burden of chastity is hard on him, but he appreciates what he has and doesn’t want to give it up.
The belt was only part of it, but mainly my husband accepted the traditionally female role in our relationship. Instead of taking initiative he learned to follow my lead and to look for me to give him instructions and to set his limits. He adopted a mindset of thinking about pleasing me (and avoiding ever displeasing me) in order to receive his rewards. He learned to adapt to my moods and to modify his behavior to my whims. The best way to out it is to say that the belt wiped away any typical male arrogance and pride that he had left.
As you said he has to serve my pussy knowing that he will never penetrate a woman again. It’s humbling for a man to only use his tongue instead of his penis. Being on his knees with his face buried between my legs is a daily reminder of his position in our relationship, and it’s still difficult for him to accept, but over time he continues to adjust and accept.
He is released on a weekly basis (unless he misbehaves, which is now rare) so his penis gets plenty of use, just not inside a woman.
He is in a full belt so there is not chance if him getting out while I am not home, if he were in a less secure device (as he was initially) he would definitely try to escape. But at this point he doesn’t resist and accepts the situation. There are difficult parts that he has to endure but enough good parts that make it worthwhile for him to live under my control.
Thanks! Transitioning from a cage to the belt changed everything for the better. It is completely secure, but more than that it is imposible for my husband to even see or touch his penis, and the belt also creates a flat, feminine front with no bulge whatsoever, which has a powerful psychological effect. A lot of a man’s ego and arrogance is related to his penis, having it not only locked away but essentially disappeared humbles a man and makes him much less defiant. Managing his releases gives me all the control that I need, he craves being out of the belt and that is enough to keep him productive and behaved. If my husband show any disobedience or lack of servitude, I take away his release for the week. Believe me, after a few weeks in the belt 24/7, his submissive attitude always appears, along with many apologies.
How can they ever see themselves a dominant male anymore when they have to now dress like this to please me. Mitch now only gets serviced from her rear which is why she tries to draw attention to her rear. Her front is no longer available for her pleasure as its locked and will stay that way. It forces her to concentrate on her rear which is still accessible and her feminine duties keeping herself as feminine as possible for me.
My husband is not allowed any PIV sex, as long as he is married to me he won’t be penetrating anyone. I do enjoy him pleasuring me orally and he does that on almost a daily basis. He does see me walking around nude but unfortunately I think that its frustrating for him when I do that. He is allowed to masturbate when I grant him his weekly release but he is on his own, I don’t watch and he is certainly not touching me, licking me or watching me when he is unlocked.
The mean bitch side of me enjoys the fact that his male hormones are active but that I have him locked up tight, and I do get a cruel pleasure out of teasing him when I am in one of those moods.
I allow him to masturbate because a balance of rewards and punishments make our FLR work. Having periodic releases keeps him motivated and behaved. Don’t worry, I have full authority and total control over him, granting him pleasure doesn’t reduce my dominance.
I have been called “no nonsense” by a lot of people and am proud of it. It makes me proud that I have taken a man and put him under my total control, sexually, financially and domestically. For those that are considering it, it takes confidence and strength (and patience) to eliminate a male’s masculine tendencies and make him into the ideal subservient husband, but it’s worth the effort.