Just to be clear: the only hand on my husband’s penis is his own and the only thing being penetrated by the dildo is his ass.
You are correct that the full belt goes far beyond just chastity, it has a major psychological effect because the penis is totally inaccessible, not to mention having to sit down to pee and having a perfectly feminine flat front instead of a male bulge.
I know how he feels. Having the belt locked on is excruciatingly frustrating and it hasn’t gotten easier to endure even after all this time. What it does is force him to focus his energy elsewhere and to adopt a mindset that allows him to cope with his situation. Keeping busy and taking pride in completing his many tasks. Deriving pleasure from pleasuring me and gaining my appreciation and approval. It’s hard for outsiders to understand but taking on a new mindset brings him satisfaction and acceptance. Instead of his selfish desires he focuses externally, and instead of being idle he keeps busy so as not to dwell on being locked up.
Besides the issues related to the belt, how does he feel being under my complete control, subservient to me? it’s something he has adjusted to by knowing that he is provided for in every way, that we enjoy our companionship and doing things together, and that he is relieved of the pressure of “being a man” which he had trouble with. In many ways he has sacrificed his manhood, but the upside is not having the stress of being the breadwinner, having to make any decisions, and having to waste time with macho b.s.
It’s a major power rush to be sure! Our arrangement is practical but I don’t deny how the power I have makes me feel. Every morning I wake up with my husband’s manhood locked away while I hold the key, knowing that I have conquered a male to the point that I have his complete obedience and that his life consists of service to me in every way, domestically and sexually. Sometimes I look in the mirror and smile at how I have worked hard to build a dream life and been smart and powerful enough to emasculate a man and make him totally dependent on me. Not too many women can say that. It’s a power trip and hard to describe how satisfying and fulfilling it is, it only gets better with each passing day.
A male has a lot of pride, and removing that pride is important to an effective FLR, but smashing a man’s pride all at once can backfire. Achieving a balance in taking a man’s pride is important. I admit that it gives me a rush to chip away at his manhood and to humiliate him in small ways, but I don’t go overboard either.
To earn his weekly release he doesn’t only have to behave well but also complete a lengthy list if chores. So enduring my pegging is really just another chore that is required. He doesn’t enjoy it but does what he has to do.
my husband wakes up and helps me get ready for work by ironing my clothes and laying them out for me. I usually work 10-12 hours at the office, meantime my husband is busy with domestic chores. There is no daily list or hourly schedule because he knows what needs to be done. He’s busy cleaning, vacuuming, scrubbing, doing laundry for most of the day, or shopping for groceries or doing errands. I check on him via text or video chat at various points during the day. If he needs to leave the house he gets my permission first. Any time I call him he better be where he is supposed to be, meaning at home or wherever he asked permission to go, e.g. the supermarket. I check his weight and his waist measurement once a week to make sure he is under the targets that I set for him, but what he eats and how much he exercises is up to him. He is strictly forbidden from consuming any alcohol at any time. I give him cash for expenses but he has to account for every penny with receipts. When I get home I am usually exhausted, so I usually just throw my shoes and work clothes off and sit on the sofa while my husband brings me a glass of wine and rubs my feet. Then I usually point and he kneels down between my legs and pleasures me with his tongue, which he has become quote proficient at. He prepares our dinner and then we watch television or read quietly like any other couple before going to bed. So basically our life is similar to a typical dominant man and housewife, except the roles are reversed and more defined.
Sometimes we invite friends over and my husband cooks and serves a nice meal. None of our friends know that he is in chastity or the degree that I control him, but we are open about the fact that I am in charge and that he is subservient to me. Sometimes we go out and again I don’t hide the dynamics of our relationship, which is sometimes jarring to strangers. It’s still embarrassing to him and the last vestiges of male pride surface at times but he has gotten used to it when I make it obvious to the outside world that we are in a FLR. Sometimes I go out clubbing or bar hopping with girlfriends and my husband stays home, knowing that I will be checking on him during the evening. Sometimes I go on dates with other men, and of course this has been the hardest adjustment for him. I like to dress very sexy and tease him a bit, and I know it’s not easy for him to iron a sexy outfit and then help me put it on knowing that it’s for another man. However I never bring men home or talk about what happens because that seems excessive. Until very recently I would always meet my dates elsewhere although now I often have them pick me up at home. Sunday is the big day because that is when my husband receives his release from the dreaded belt. Assuming that he has behaved during the week, performed all his chores and stayed under his weight/waist target I remove the belt in the morning and he is free to do whatever he likes, within the confines of our property of course. Depending on how he did during the week I may keep it off for an hour or for the entire day. We may go motorcycle riding, go for a walk to the park, or just stay home and relax. At some point I announce that it’s time and I lock the belt back on, which he has learned to accept without whining
I absolutely don’t tolerate any begging, whining or complaining about anything, but especially about his desire for intercourse.
I respectfully ask you since your husband is very horny all the time and you don’t allow him intercourse, do you at least allow him long kissing sessions with you while being in chastity? can he grab or kiss your ass and boobs?
No, I absolutely do not tolerate any kissing or playing with my boobs. He knows he would stay in his belt for a good long time if he ever disrespected me by trying to initiate intimate contact.
For the most part, he is respectful and keeps his hands to himself and catches himself from staring too long at my bosom. But once he couldn’t help himself after being locked in his belt for a full month and he tried to grab both of my breasts. I slapped his face harshly and kept him in his belt for another month until he obediently apologized and begged forgiveness, promising to keep his hands off and his mind on serving me.