The only thing similar I can compare it too is something she brought up that was a hard limit when we started. The whole dress up and maid thing. I told her I wasn’t interested in being anyone’s servant yet alone a maid. She too was of the same mindset.
Fast forward months in, and after another hard limit of discipline came crumbling down. She had sent a meme of maid service. I was going on 3 weeks lock up and everything she sent seemed like a good idea lol. Eventually I asked her if that was something she wanted. She said yes. I told her I would give it a try.
Although I still had some issues to work out with it, I eventually did it, uniform and all. I felt silly and ridiculous. Then I started cleaning. I can’t describe the feeling, but began to get excited with every chore I had finished. Every act of service became erotic. Knowing I was doing something out of my comfort zone and knowing this was making her happy was getting me physically arroused. By the time I was finished with the house and waiting for her to get home, sitting there in this silly uniform, I was a dripping mess….from cleaning for crying out loud.
If you’re a true submissive you let your dominant wife call the tune and you dance to it. In my marriage, I am not allowed to suggest anything. I follow orders and am grateful. I am only allowed to pleasure her a couple to a few times a month.
As we started playing with longer lock-ups I found that it really gave me this powerful focus on making my wife happy. So one day I made the bed. We never made the bed. Why bother, you’re just going to sleep in it again. She came home and saw the bed and said “I like this”. Things just snowballed from there. Now I cook, clean, shop and do the laundry. She orders me to perform tasks and I do them. She texted me this morning after dropping the kids off “I’ll be home in 10 minutes. I want two eggs over easy and a turkey sausage ready when I get there”. I dropped everything and went and did it.
Patience is the crucial ingredient. She certainly will appreciate it and, as you say, you’ll be suitably rewarded. After mentioning to my wife that I’d like a female-controlled marriage, I didn’t talk about it again until she’d had a chance to ponder it. Once she agreed, the power exchange was rapid and now is complete. She is in total control and is entirely comfortable.