Eventually we found a cage that actually reduced the package in my pants, and I could wear it 24/7, and I started to get comfortable wearing it daily.
Eventually, I was less and less aroused by chastity as I got used to it being my new reality. Then I wasn’t as self conscious in public, or gatherings.
Eventually we got more serious about chastity, and I wasn’t allowed piv sex, or erections. Sex with the wife is a strap on that I wear (We had one try using the original parts in 13 months, then back to the harness) and I’m always locked for that. My wife hates cum, so I’d learned decades ago, to not need an orgasm to enjoy sex.
Kink stuff with the keyholder that I used to be allowed to experience unlocked are now always locked (unless a couple times a year when she wants to torment my parts..She is a sadist.) No more erections around either of them. This step scared the crap out of me. I’m over 50, and have been with one woman for over 30 years, and a close friend of the other for 15 or so. This is long term stuff, and I’d agreed to commit to it!
That was really tough, because I was really self conscious around other guys or friends, that I no longer had conventional sex, or was even allowed the organ to have it with. There was lots of support from my keyholder as we navigated me into becoming what she needed in a kink partner, and servant. We started with her not wanting a kink partner to be masturbating. We ended up with her loving the control of it all, and the changes in me with strict chastity and denial.
Each step is a big leap of faith, and each hurdle seems to have been managed by accepting the rules, and learning to be less crazy horny and kink minded about it all. The right cage for me. The right way to wear it. Accepting emasculation as a new normal. Learning to not feel less of a guy for not having piv sex, or boners, or getting off.
Sometimes I think I am being groomed for a locked denied and largely ignored future at some point. I think if that should come about it might be a quite a good thing long term .. as my Lady mentioned then perhaps the occasional chat about my feelings about being locked denied and ignored might be the only ‘treat’ I would get and such chats would necessarily have to be a very long time apart.