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Wife denies sex for years

 We walked into the bedroom of the suite and her husband was tied up in a standing position against the dresser, facing the bed. He was totally naked, except for the wrist and ankle cuffs, the collar around his neck and the metal device attached to his penis. I didn’t notice it at first but I soon realized that his penis was pierced and there was some sort of a metal chastity device around his penis. He was a handsome man who was probably around 45 to 50 years old. His wife was probably 40 to 45.

The husband was trying to hump the air, his penis was purple from the constriction of the metal chastity device and he was making some loud groans of excitement and frustration. He then began to beg his wife for an orgasm.
 
As if she were waiting for this moment, his wife sprung up and went to him, twisted his nipples and began to verbally humiliate him. She told him to look at my beautiful body and she asked him if he wished he could have sex me. I was getting concerned because I was told no physical contact would occur but I soon realized what was going on. She was teasing him and humiliating him in front of me.
 
The husband said repeatedly that he wanted to have sex but the wife kept telling him that he would never have sex with another woman for the rest of his life. She then made him tell me how long it had been since he had intercourse with her. He embarrassingly confessed that he had not had sex with his wife for over three years. I could not believe what I was witnessing.
 

If the husband confessed to being denied intercourse with his wife for three years, chances are rather good that was indeed the truth. She wanted Olivia to hear that confession, as that was her way of showing off to another woman the kind of control she wielded over her husband.

Consequently, I persuaded him that his orgasms must be limited to just one per month by the date of the wedding.  Cutting down from one per week to one per month proved much harder than either of us expected.  Getting him sufficiently flaccid to fit his CB-2000 each morning could involve genital ice packs, cold water showers, or both.  On returning home from the office in the evening, after I had unlocked and removed the device, he would often be rock hard and desperate to climax.  Because Edward felt unable to shower safely in such an aroused state I had two sturdy metal rings fixed to the shower walls above head height to which I can tie his wrists before I remove the CB-2000 and then wash him down personally, again using warm or cold water depending on his erectile state.
I recognized that I enjoy depriving Edward of sex and punishing him for accidents as much or even more than he enjoys submitting himself to orgasm denial and being disciplined for unauthorized lapses.
 
From there it was not a great leap to agree that ours would be a marriage never to be consummated in the usual way.  Edward wanted to surrender his sexuality to me permanently, and I was keen to enslave and feminize him completely.  So we set about drawing up our personal prenuptial contract of lifelong fidelity, domination and submission, and involving perpetual sexual abstinence and a very strict permanent ban on touching ourselves or any form of self-gratification. The important exceptions are that Edward agrees to serve me with his tongue whenever I so desire, so that I can still enjoy sex on my terms without being troubled by any impulse to masturbate.  In exchange I offer him infrequent orgasmic release by hand, but only as and when I might feel in the right mood.

There is something about a woman demanding a man remain chaste and forbidding sex during the courtship that places the man in the submissive role. His urges are to have sex but the woman gains the dominant position when she demands that they wait until marriage.

One day, as I was in the basement, the idea came to me that we could convert the coal room off the basement into a deprivation chamber. I became excited and I gave Jack his orders to build his little prison cell.
 
The chamber ignited our sex lives. When he finished the room, I found it to be erotic as hell. I found myself constantly thinking of new ways to dominate Jack. I would be at work and my mind would think of new things to try. My sex fantasies also began to change. I kept thinking about Denise and Gary’s story in Elise’s book. Her going out on a date on New Year’s Eve with a younger man while her husband was locked at home in a cage, her calling him on the cell phone, telling him how her date was touching her body on the dance floor. Then her bringing her date home, telling her husband there had been a change of plans and how she was taking her young date to bed but Gary had to stay in the cage.

My journey to FLR marriage with husband locked in chastity

I live the FLR lifestyle 24/7/365, with my husband subservient to me and securely locked in a Neosteel Arch belt. It has been a long and winding journey which I would like to share with anyone who is interested.

Deciding to convert our marriage to FLR was a major step, but locking my husband in chastity was in many ways even more important and has made my life exactly what I always wanted and deserved.

It has been a 40 year road to get to this point. I want to share day to day issues that come up and hear from all of you in this forum but I have to explain how I reached this stage of my life, I hope it is helpful so that you can understand a mean bitch’s point of view.

About six years ago I met a kind, gentle, considerate man and got married again. He was different from anyone I had been with before and also the first white man I had ever dated. It was good to have someone in my life but the marriage was not that really satisfying in any way. And then my husband lost his job and couldn’t find a new one, fortunately I became a partner at the firm around that time and could support us. But I started to resent that I was the breadwinner, that he didn’t satisfy me in bed, that he was basically a weak, indecisive man. It infuriated me that I had married a weak, soft man that I had to support financially.

So one day about two years ago I sat him down and told him that we were finished and I wasn’t happy. As I expected he cried like a girl and begged me, and said he needed me and would do anything to stay together. And I do enjoy his companionship, so I told him we could stay together but that he needed to make my life easier and take on a whole different role in our relationship. The truth is that with him not working and not being a strong decision maker my old bossy instincts had been coming out more and more, so it was just a matter of formalizing things into a full FLR. He fell into his new role pretty easily although some things were hard, such as having to ask me permission for everything and having no money of his own. But the first few months worked well for both of us.

But gradually he started slacking off, he would still badger me for sex sometimes even though I had made it clear that it was not going to happen, and to make things worse I realized that he was spending most of the day at home masturbating, which explained a lot. So having read extensively about successful FLRs I laid down the law again and he had to very reluctantly accept being caged in a CB6000.

After a few weeks in the CB6000 he seemed to adjust pretty well and stopped complaining, but over the next few months he started to slack off again. One day I caught him and realized the problem. He was able to slip out and pleasure himself. Unfortunately for him that meant getting a Neosteel Arch which has him completely and securely locked, with his dick pulled back between his legs and no access at all. If he behaves he gets briefly released once a week, and believe me he is a very good boy now. The belt has finally made him completely obedient and subservient and made our marriage perfect as far as I am concerned.

Bottom line I refuse to apologize for living the life that is typical for a successful man in my position. At home I have a “wife” who does all the chores and makes my life as easy as possible, who is completely dependent on me, who jumps when I say jump and who has to accept that I have an active and fulfilling sex life outside of the marriage. And the chastity belt is fundamental, because it is a simple reward and punishment system that keeps him in line and at my beck and call. So that is how I arrived here. It has taken a while but I have the life that I deserve.

You’re right, you have every right to want an obedient and subservient husband. You have nothing to apologize for, you financially support him and grant him release every week if he’s well behaved, that’s pretty generous if you ask me. It takes a strong woman to realize what’s wrong in her relationship and take charge of the situation. We as a society should encourage more woman to be as empowered as you.

Excellent you are training him well. I stopped my husband masturbating by also locking him in chastity and its taken a while to find the right device that is secure and neat. He is now locked each day in his steel cage which also penetrates his urethra which stops him escaping.

Thank you so much for your advice. Actually the ring in the penis is not one i would have, just the two on the scrotum. Therefore an erection would not cause any pain to my little penis. However we could adjust the size of the chain so that it prevents all but the very tip of my little penis from being seen. That is the main objective of my Wife and the other Ladies…they simply don’t want to see it while i serve them.

A mistress kept her man confined until he reached the period of not being able to get an erection. She would them let him out and tell him he could cum if he was able to masturbate and do it himself. He would try and to no avail he would remain soft. However a short time later after being out of confinement and given stimulation his ability to become erect would return and then she would lock him up again for another long lock up.

I have been wearing a cage for quite some time and was allowed two orgasms last year and my wife has indicated none this year I am allowed out to clean only

No orgasm for two years

Last two years without any release for him, and he is so balanced now in his destiny:) The numbness has fine-tuned my strategy and besides the obvious frustration I can see in his eyes when I make him perform, still not been able to feel anything, I also sense a very very proud husband, who gets a boost from knowing that he has given it all up of for me.

Truth is I would not keep him like this if it was not that I knew for a fact that this is truly what he wants.
Oh, countless times he has told me that he never saw this coming, that he used to be a victim of the wellknown male fantasy; that the lifestyle would lead to so much more sex and action for him.

I must admit that I am the one who has got the benefits, sexually as with dozen of other areas.
Perhaps I am not paying back as I should but it is hard to give when You are being served and pampered all the time;-)
He is an oral expert and I can say that he is up there with Anne. God I have turned naughty!
Intercouse is on the other hand in decline, but I guess that is what I have read from other ladies too. When oral is THAT GOOD, who needs more? Well, I can still enjoy to ride it from time to time…. He is well-equipped, so it would be a shame not to take use of it;-)
He is afterall still my MAN;-)

My g/f used to have me on an unlock schedule and I had an idea of when I would cum, but now she has me locked up indefinitely. It’s less pressure for her to grant me a release without having to keep inline with a schedule and it keeps me guessing. The basis for us is that I am to be locked in my cage indefinitely. This establishes her authority and control over me. She sees no reason for me to be unlocked at any time and I agree. The only time when we plan to take off the cage is for 15 minutes on Sunday nights for a supervised thorough cleaning, then it’s back on for another 7 days.

To earn my releases, we took a page from KeepHimCaged’s blog and we use a coin toss.

If I do good things for her or make her cum, then I can earn a earn a coin toss. As long as I keep flipping heads then I build credits, but if I flip tails then it’s back to zero. One head is nothing, two heads is an hour out my cage (supervised and no touching myself), three heads is a teasing session, four heads is a hand job or blow job with her option of making it a ruined orgasm, and 5 heads is PIV sex. I can cash in my credits any time along the way, but then I go back to zero. If we have PIV sex or I have an orgasm, then I need to wait at least a week before earning tosses again. In 3 weeks, I’ve only earned 5 tosses and built up two heads and now I’m back to zero. It’s tough!

We started 4 years ago a slowly it go more and more serious or strict would be a better word .last year I had two full orgasms only 🙁 and like you my wife had a low sex drive now also she cum alot with or with out me .i cum very little she now only unlocks me (apart from cleaning )to milk me with a ruined orgasm as she loves feeding it to me it turns her on…so now over time that’s all I get unlocked ruined eat it it make her cum and locked back up I am just here to be used it seems in the bed very erotic and bloody frustrating haven’t had an orgasm this year and she has hinted I won’t be having one this year.
We are the happest we have ever been it’s odd how things evolve I will be cooking her dinner tonight as usual.
Since the wife started taking the key to my device, the times in which I am locked up have been getting longer. Last year she had me go for 2 months three times. The start of this year she had me locked for 2 1/2 months. What lies ahead only she knows, but I would venture to say longer times in chastity are in my cards. She tells me she loves how anxious I get in order to serve her the longer her cock is locked away.
Gradually (with 6 months) she realized the power in controlling me by keeping me locked
She also noticed that longer lockup duration made me more submissive, caring, obedient and tamed husband
So my release frequency reduced to 1-2 times a month and later 1-2 times in 6 months
In the mean time she did not want to miss her pleasures, so we tried me giving her oral sex
I never imagined that this newly found ‘oral sex’ is going to lead me to permanent chastity!
You all know the rest of the story!

Sex while in chastity

I’m in shock.

Everything changed tonight.

It changed

And I’m trying to process it. As I write this.

My lovely wife woke me up when she came in the bedroom around 10pm. She cuddled up to me and chatted for a minute or two.

Before asking the question.

You were supposed to fuck me with the strap-on tonight did you forget about that?

She said that.

My wife, who has never liked toys or vibrators inside her, she said that.

Yes Ma’am I would love to do that.

I answered. Eager.

So she unlocked the bedroom toybox and in a minute I had a seven inch purple cock strapped to me. About the same size as the one still locked away in the chastity device.

I put a condom on the strap-on and then knelt between her legs to get her ready. She let me kiss her pussy for a few minutes but then pushed me away.

I’m not cumming in your mouth tonight. Now fuck me.

She said.

Getting up on all fours.

Into her favorite position.

She had the Hitachi under her and arched her back, giving me her pussy.

It was so strange feeling myself straining helplessly in the cage as I pushed the silicone dildo inside her. I went easy at first because I couldn’t feel anything but she was pushing back onto me and making noise right from the start so pretty soon I picked up the tempo grabbed her hips and was grinding deep inside her.

And she came. Hard and fast.

I was shocked how much she enjoyed it.

She who doesn’t like toys inside her.

Loved it.

When she caught her breath she told me it felt exactly like me.

Seriously she said- I couldn’t tell a difference.

After that she tried on the strap-on. She had me lick it clean from her use first and then I asked her to fuck me with it. She agreed but when I laid on my back she said no- if I wanted to get fucked then I’d be doing it with my ass in the air.

I got into the position she wanted and she pressed it against my ass hole.

It took a few minutes and I helped to get inside but once she did she railed me from behind for a couple minutes before it popped out by accident and I think we both decided that was fine for a first try.

We cleaned up and then I gave her a nice back and foot massage.

Still caged.

And we talked

About the strap-on.

One would think a man getting fucked in his ass for the first time ever would be the highlight of the evening.

But I think for both of us it was something else.

It was how well she liked the strap-on.

Inside her.

I’ve been in and out of chastity for most of this year. And all the while the stop-gap to my time locked up has always been the fact that she likes a good fucking.

I always told myself I’d never be locked up more than a week or so because she likes a penis inside her too much.

Toys don’t cut it.

My wife likes the real thing.

That was yesterday.

That was literally yesterday.

Before she went to sleep I did everything but beg to be let out of the cage and the wasn’t budging. She gave me a very serious talk that this is how it’s going to be now and I better get use to it. She loves the strap on and may want to try a thicker one. Don’t worry I’ll still be allowed orgasms occasionally but not like it’s been up until now. Not even close.

I’d give anything to have sex with you. I told her.

And she said

We just did.